Relationships with your boss

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Can they ever work? small company, they've been amazing to me since I started and I adore everything about the job. One of my bosses (single) is just the loveliest man ever and after a drunken incident realised how much I like him. He's a wee bit older than me but that's not an issue. I'm in two minds about the whole thing, I love working for the company and really don't want anything to effect my position, there is so much unsaid between us but I think we might both feel the same. my heads saying one thing but my heart the other. Can it/does it ever work?

There are probably many long term relationships that stem from meeting somebody at work. The. Negative side to consider are: If it developed then others at work may possibly find it a bit awkward and it may be difficult to hang on to your privacy but hey ho nothing ventured nothing gained. It could be very difficult if you split up later on, especially if it's on bad terms but why not just go for a drink, take things slowly and see how it goes. Good luck.

"I love working for the company and really don't want anything to effect my position,"

sorry but: working for a small company x drunken incident x boss = pretty often spells trouble

You can't expect this or taking things further with this guy to not affect your position. It will.

{disclaimer: small chance it may work out well if feelings are reciprocated. }

It would be forbidden at my company, relationships between people at different levels in the same reporting line. Too much risk of abuse of position. One of you would be expected to move out of the reporting line (or even the company), and in reality, that's going to be the one who's easiest to replace.

Having said that, there are loads of relationships which go on (though it's quite a large company), but you can't expect it not to affect your working relationship, and it may not all be in positive ways.

Take care.

It can work but I think you have to consider that it may lead to you leaving the job. A relationship between two staff members in a small company can have a massive impact on everyone's working dynamic. Plus he isn't your colleague, he's your boss which adds another level of complication.

If you had met him outwith work, would you have been as attracted to him? Part of the attraction may be that he is older and an authority figure. They're aspects which can be attractive in a relationship but you might not want to bring them into a professional sphere as they could diminish your own role and capabilities.