Dating ideas needed/new ways of meeting people other than internet dating

[ShropshireLady]

Hi everyone! Just wondering if anyone had any thoughts on this, or any ideas of how to meet potential new partners. Internet dating isn't an option for me, I've looked at joining walking groups in shropshire but as I understand there's a few weirdos or geeks there, Speed dating events tend to be based in Birmingham or the major cities, I have limited time for socialising needlessly just in the hope Mr right is in some pub or other. i go to a gym but people just tend to go, do their workout and not talk. It's so hard to meet men who are single and without issues! If anyone could come up with any ideas, or who has had similar experiences it would be good to know. TIA

Brassband...Ido get where you are coming from as I have been disillusioned by OD before. It can play with your self esteem in a negative way as well as positive. I have developed a thick skin I think.

Yes, I am yet to find any positives od can give my self esteem !

Nothing wrong with 59 yr olds Brass DH is one and very fit, but as far as I know he's not doing OD :)

Well yes - but I am 32 so he wouldn't quite be my type!

Lots of good ideas and even if you don't meet anyone to date, you will have a nicer and fulfilling, busy life.

Rural stuff- there must be something! Craft events? Run an embroidery stall? Get a dog and walk it? I met someone like that, although I was on a horse at the time:)

"Get a dog and walk it!"

Yes, walk that fecker as fast as it's little legs can carry it until you have a date.

I've tried internet dating before yes of course. I have my own personal reasons why it is now not an option. My original post was about suggesting ideas other than internet dating, not an opportunity to question me on why it's no longer an option. Please respect my reasons. Thanks for all the replies so far! Hopefully it's giving other people ideas too :-)

That's sounds very mysterious OP.
Don't you feel able to share?

Being Sherlock, I'm assuming you don't want someone to see you online because I can't think of any other compelling reasons other than finance and not being able to use a card etc to join.

But no need to tell.

Pink I think she made it clear she doesn't want to disclose her reasons.

So?
There is no law against guessing is there?

I had a thread recently about my name and people mispronouncing it and I had to get the whole thread pulled in the end as people just wouldn't stop playing guess the name (despite me asking them not to!)

I did actually want advice so yes I would say it is a but inappropriate to keep asking questions and guessing when the OP has indicated they don't want to discuss something - not saying that to sound pompous :) but it just derails the thread completely!

OP - are you single? I can't imagine why OD wouldn't be an option unless someone wasn't single. Sorry to speculate.

Friendly running club! You'll make some firm friendships and potentially meet nice men. They might not all be super fit but they'll be active and have a hobby, which is always good. Most running clubs meet a few times a week and have socials a few times a year (or much more once you are friendly with people and see them outside jogging unofficially). Its cheaper than the gym and much more fun (but I'm biased). Enjoy outdoors and get fit whilst you're at it.

All you need to do is a bit of research as to which one near you is the most novice friendly, etc.

Thanks for the idea Dirtybadger, that's another one to add to the list! @Whatsgoingoneh yes of course I am single. There are many reasons why people can't internet date. Like i've stated before i'm not prepared to list mine on a public forum. I'm now starting to feel like my identity and safety may now be at risk and really wish I hadn't posted the thread at all :-(

How are your identity and safety possibly at risk? Serious question.

There is a difference between 'not being able' to internet date ( maybe no access to the web or confidential access to it ) and choosing not to.

The main reasons someone chooses not to is for reasons of confidentiality IME so OP that's why people have become curious! No one's trying to work out who you are, but you do seem a bit touchy over this which just fuels speculation.

Ok- that's my take on it so don't be offended.

Check out the Shropshire Motorsport site , there will be lots of men doing the various activities available there.

Meetup groups sound good except... personally 2 men I've dated belong to 2 separate Meetup groups. So for me those groups are ruled out.

It's the OP's private business as to why she doesn't wish to use OD so please respect that and don't speculate.

Personally I've yet to do much OD, I've only had 1 date so far from Match.com (which didn't work out).

I do sympathise with OP for living in an area without much opportunity for meeting others; I live in East Dorset which apparently has the lowest number of unmarried men in the UK! Eek!

Volunteer for;
RNLI
RDA
Mountain rescue
These all need huge numbers of active supporters not just the people that do the rescuing (brilliant socially too)

Learn to;
Sail
Kayak
Canoe
Cycle (try skyrides - look at the website for local rides to you at your level)

Join;
A local skills exchange scheme
Cinnamon trust (if you don't already have a dog) (people have relatives)

Latara

I live in East Dorset which apparently has the lowest number of unmarried men in the UK! Eek!
That's cos the locals all marry their cousins in Dorset......

Actually I have a couple of single male cousins...