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Petty squabbles/bickering

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Unsureif · 25/07/2014 17:24

We've had a stressful year. DH is now on holidays and I thought it'd be better/easier once the holidays arrived. But we're around each other more so it's actually worse!

How much bickering is normal for you? How do we stop it? We're both exhausted and have a lot on our plates still. DH just seems to have such little patience. He's not always clear (to me) and I then ask him to repeat something which he hates. He often has this sighing thing going on it eye rolling. I'm probably just as bad. But we can't seem to stop.

Our last crossed words were just now about my method of bringing the shopping in (I left bags by the front door rather than all the way inside (he was inside) but that was because DS (2) was out the front 'helping' and I didn't want to leave him out unsupervised while I brought the bags into the kitchen and I thought DH would happily collect then from the front door instead of coming out to the car to get the next lot - make sense?! In any case, we squabbled about it! It feels like it's like this with everything and I find myself thinking "it'll be better when" but it never is!

Any thoughts on how to get out of this rut?

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WhatsGoingOnEh · 31/07/2014 22:35

I always found having my husband at home was 100000000x harder than having him away at work. He was just so under my feet at home, my routine was shot to shit. And I was only resentful about domestic stuff when he was in the house. I mean, if he was in the house not-emptying the bin, it was far more irritating than when it was just me alone with the bin. Both times I had to empty it, but I only got resentful when he was there.

I really feel for you. These are the hard years! When is he back at work?

Unsureif · 31/07/2014 22:44

Whatsgoingoneh - thank you. That's it. Exactly it! When he went away for a week with work (school trip/teacher) the chores did not annoy me one bit! :)

The funny thing is, he actually ends up doing loads more than me because I'm frequently BF and we have loads of diy to be done that I've just proven that I can't do by my shit attempt tonight Grin

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