FWB

[oboyone123]

I've known someone from OD for a while. We've had a few dates and some great sex! He's a nice guy but it's obvious neither of us are up for a relationship though that was the intention initially iykwim. I'd like to let him know that being FWB would be ok for me but how do I go about it without embarrassing myself or offending him in that, I don't like you enough to want more than sex! help

A classic opener would be 'where do you see this going?' Alternatively, you could be more assertive... 'I really like this casual set up but want to check we're on the same page'.

I agree with the above. But really if you're both happy with how things are & as you say, its obvious neither of you are after commitment from this.. Why say anything? Just enjoy yourself & have fun.

thanks, the thing is he's gone quiet, again and I don't know if he thinks I'm in it for a full on relationship. I'm friendly, obviously but maybe he is taking my ' lets meet up' the wrong way. I couldnt really care less about being wined and dined. I suppose I have nothing to lose by being direct.

I think that if you are going to engage in a FWB type arrangement, 'direct' is the bare minimum. Otherwise, the risk is that one party wants more than is on the table and is hurt as a result.

I'm pretty sure he doesnt want a relationship with me. Direct it is. How about, i've enjoyed our nights out......then what? Lets just meet for rampant sex lol

Yep, that's it! Been there, done that and it is the best approach!

Mysteryman, what I said in my last post?

Yep what you said. I think a guy would/should be err responsive to your suggestion.

If he is not in that place then fine but he should let you know. It may of course depend on his personality but I would not be shy. Nothing wrong with knowing what you want and going after it!

thanks, that's what I'll do when I next see him. Looking forward to it

I would hope so! Good luck