My partner/husband/significant other is my hero because:

[Theas18]

Thought I'd start a nice thread in relationships. It might go down like a lead balloon I dunno, but I read so much sad stuff on here, especially the recent thread where the poster thought her DP loved her because he did the stuff you would do for a best friend (and yet was an utter bullying abuser).

Here is mine:
today Dh has driven the kids 90mins each way to visit my parents- mum is in hospital and Dad in respite care. He's also been shopping to get mum bits of this and that and taken Dad some things he was missing from their home. I was stuck at work till 7pm :(

That's above and beyond the call of duty I think. Not your average "romantic touch" but makes me feel so very loved.

Tell me your special things.

DP has been a godsend throughout my pregnancy and since I've had our 2 week old

While I was pregnant he did all the housework and when I got really big I could sit on the sofa and he would bring me anything I needed.

Now DS is here and I'm not quite used to doing things one handed he will still bring me stuff and be at my beck and call. I even woke him during the 4am feed to go and fetch me something from downstairs which he did without a quibble.

And he does more than his fair share of nappies. I know that if he could share the feeding he would.

I am absolutely dreading Monday when he goes back to work.

This is one of the saddest threads on this board, though. I'd like a partner who'd rub faces with my cat. Worried for my mental health about how much I'd like that!

Because he is always always unfailingly kind. Even when under pressure or stress, his default mode is kind

And let me tell you, I am at the stage if life when kind counts above all other things.

My DH is strong, mentally and physically. He is a sorter, he sorts all the stuff out in our house, paperwork, bins etc.

He is a good role model to our dc, kind, calm (usually!), considerate, funny and loving.

He is shit at romance though.... But then so am I!

He also sometimes still surprises me, which I like.

Despite being treated so very badly when he was younger, he had used that to become a lovely, caring, kind person and not used it as an excuse to be a shit.

I know he will absolutely be there whenever I need him.

The things he likes about me are the things I want be liked for.

He doesn't just tolerate my dogs, he seems actually like them.

He's the most remarkable person I've met and a total role model. He's changed my life in incredible ways and given me chances that have made a huge difference (he used to be my manager!)

My DH was there for me every day when I was in hospital for 6 weeks after life threatening surgery. He would spend the day with me & be home in time for DD. He was a very hands on carer when I first came home & needed help to stand in the shower. He has stopped working to be my permanent carer for 2 years now. He does all the house work. Most of all he is my "safe place", if I am scared or sad the thing I want most is him there giving me a cuddle.

Dh is my hero. He hold my skeins while I wind my wool and I operate the extractor while he solders his circuit boards. We are a team. I would hate to be without him.

He is kind - really kind.

He is extremely self-aware and reflective.

He will always put himself out for others.

One thing I never have to worry about is his reaction to stuff... If I've done something stupid, he will be supportive.

He is wonderful in umpteen ways but here's just one. This morning he had to leave very early to have a fasting blood test. He couldn't have a cup of tea in bed but he still got up and made one for me. True love!

he has been there through my miscarriage. 2 weeks ago. made me rest which I am not good at. sent me flowers to work and took me out for dinner.
without him I would be a blubbering mess on the sofa in my pj's

diet, that's for you and your lovely partner. Sorry to hear about your loss.

Aww so glad I started this thread now. I was worried about it!

He holds things together when my default is to flap and panic, puts up with my idiosincransies (dd1 is apergers and I have many similar traits!). Works long hours so I can work as I can(have a history of depression and anxiety and easily get stressed).

He makes me feel like Patricia Arquette at the end of True Romance (You are so cool, you are so cool).

He gets up both weekend mornings because I really really love lie ins (we even argue about this because I want him to get a lie in sometimes and he won't let me get up).

He is one of the cleverest people I know.

He is the kindest person I know. But he can also be viciously funny and has a very black sense of humour. And a very light and silly sense of humour too sometimes.

He puts up with me.

Sadly he also puts up with MIL - this is the downside....

He puts my happiness above his own

Because although he has always been a hands on dad he really stepped up to the plate when I was admitted to hospital for 5 weeks solid when our youngest daughter was 8 weeks old.

He started her on formula and taught her to sleep in a cot (breastfed coaleeping baby) while looking after our older two children and coordinating complicated childcare drop offs around working full time.

Ive been in hospital most of the last 3 and a half months and he has kept our family together.

He is supporting me through my second (much worse than last time) HG pregnancy. It is bad enough that if I accidentally get pregnant again in the future I will terminate immediately; I cannot do this again. He works full time and has taken on full kid/house duties while I am in hospital/bed/out of it. He can't drive so after a full day at work he comes home, looks after 2yo DD and once she is in bed walks to the supermarket and back for supplies before doing cleaning/laundry without moaning once. He's amazing, he must be exhausted, I have a whole new level of respect for him.

He is a wonderful, wonderful Daddy.

When we were 'dating', DP pulled worms out of my dog's bum when I couldn't bear to.

He used to leave food parcels on my doorstep to make sure I was eating when I was working too hard and our hours clashed.

If he gets up in the night for a wee, he kisses me on the nose/shoulder/head when he gets back into bed, even if he thinks I'm asleep.

He writes songs for me.

He's beautiful. I absolutely adore the bones of the man.

He takes care of me and I feel safe with him ?? he's also an amazing dad to our two boys

He's a genuinely decent human.

He brought me lunch when I was working hard and wasn't eating well. He is friendly, interesting and generous with his time. He is supportive, strong and kind, and I've become more and more impressed by him since we had our son. During his stay in nicu, my husband kept everything going, bought in everything we needed and was always there.

The look that DS gives him when he gets in from work is more than enough demonstration that he's an excellent father.

He has stickability. It doesnt sound much but my family have been scattered young and stability matters a lot to me. We had a rocky start and he stuck with it and is now absolutely lovely. I have health issues and he works harder than he should have to without complaining. He listens to me. He has a black sense of humour and doens't take me too seriously which I love.

He really is a great papa.

DH was the first man who ever made me feel like I was important and worth something and even though we have been together for 6 years he still looks at me like I am the most beautiful thing he has ever seen.

He makes me laugh a lot- we rarely fight as we end up laughing at each other.

He works away sometime 2-3 weeks of every month and he calls and facetimes me every day despite his work mates laughing at him.

He tells me he loves me all the time.

When I am unwell, he will make up daft songs and bring home a twix to cheer me up.

He loves my family and they love him, I don't know what I would do without him