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cant be bothered with sex

11 replies

samandkat · 22/07/2014 22:40

Am I normal
Is there something wrong
Will it pass or fix its self

The answer I.don't know

I have recently had my second baby to brilliant partner whom I love to bits but since the birth I simply don't feel like having sex it just does not appeal to me anymore but I still fancy my partner very much and adore everything about him

I just don't understand why I've gone off sex when I always used to love it

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JustDontWantToSay · 22/07/2014 22:45

I suspect your body is concentrating on caring for your little ones! It can't do everything and procreation is not a priority at the moment. When life is more settled and the baby is older I bet everything will be back to normal :)

MarrogfromMars · 22/07/2014 23:06

Are you breastfeeding? The hormones can do that to you (on top of the general passion-killer of having a small baby).

2kidsintow · 22/07/2014 23:11

Meh. My youngest is nearly 10 and I'm still not bothered. :)

It's great when I get in the mood, but I just can't be bothered most of the time.

Poor DH. ;)

Original poster
samandkat · 22/07/2014 23:22

Thanks girls at least I'm not the only one

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WildBillfemale · 23/07/2014 06:41

Don't make such a big deal of it - just get on with it and your body will soon have a revived attitude to sex.
Your H has physical needs so enjoy giving him pleasure one way or another.

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 23/07/2014 07:22

How long since you had the baby?

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 23/07/2014 07:24

Don't make such a big deal of it - just get on with it and your body will soon have a revived attitude to sex

No, don't do that. Only have sex if you want to. You don't necessarily have to feel really up for it but only do it if you want to.

Your H has physical needs so enjoy giving him pleasure one way or another

Also rubbish. Your H is quite capable of waiting if that's what you choose.

Frogisatwat · 23/07/2014 08:21

Bill I knew it would be you with THAT advice Grin

Lweji · 23/07/2014 09:46

How old is your baby?

It may just be hormones.

Give it time. You can do other intimate things (and I don't mean bj Hmm - more like cuddling, massages, etc) with him, and see how you feel.

Lweji · 23/07/2014 09:46

WildBillfemale
Are you Richard of Judy's fame? Hmm

foxystoat · 23/07/2014 10:29

How old is your baby? I wouldn't worry to much. Most important thing is to keep talking to your DH and listen to how each other feels. or alternatively get him to do night feeds so he is to knackered for sex

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