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How often do you do it??

46 replies

sleepinbeauty · 13/09/2006 16:35

Following on from another thread, i wonder what the norm is for mnetters, once a month? once a week? my sex life is practically non existant .

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bambi06 · 13/09/2006 21:40

been together 13 yrs and my dh wants it constantly and i just cant be bothered!! twice a week is norm but he`s constantly on at me which i think is very off putting and unappealing..mean arent i!!

emkana · 13/09/2006 21:40

(even if I did have a nanny I would make much better use of my time Sleep springs to mind... or having a nice long bath... shopping.... I could go on.)

badkarma · 13/09/2006 21:51

Tamba are you back together with your dh now?

sweetkitty · 13/09/2006 21:56

Twice since DD2 was born (she's 8 months )
Every time we try she wakes up, not that she sleeps much anyway.

QueenEagle · 13/09/2006 22:03

Depends what you mean by "do it"?

Me and dh have been together for 5 years and have 5 kids. We manage full foreplay, sex etc about 2-3 times a week. Most days we have some kind of sexual interaction, be it oral, masturbating, groping, teasing, fondling etc.

But never when the painters are in. dh has a complex about that especially as I came on once literally 30 seconds after he had peformed mind-blowing cunnilingus!!!

TambaTheDragonSlayer · 13/09/2006 22:04

BadKarma - Nope. Weve been seperated a few months now.

me23 · 13/09/2006 22:26

me and my dp both have high sex drives, which is fortunate for us, so we do 'it' everyday sometimes more than once! long may it continue eh!

lou33 · 14/09/2006 10:02

i have a date tonight and one on saturday, so i might get lucky on one of them, lol

Rochwen · 14/09/2006 16:54

About once a week but only to keep hubby happy. If it was up to me once a month would be more than enough.

I've got this birth control implant in my arm and my sex drive has gone - completely. It's a shame really. I'm worried hubby is gonna look for a mistress soon.

Rochwen · 14/09/2006 16:56

forgot to add that we've been married for six years and have one dd.

Jazzi · 14/09/2006 16:57

Once a month unfortunately - I would do it ALOT more but dp has a low sex drive!!!

lazyanna · 15/09/2006 18:35

another "not at all" here

multitasker · 15/09/2006 19:33

Rochwen - get rid of the implant. I had one about 10 years ago and apart from ruining my sex drive it also gave me really bad acne. So I got rid of it after a year and my libido returned hurrah!!

Mellowma · 15/09/2006 19:34

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multitasker · 15/09/2006 19:41

I have been trying for many years to get DH to realise that old saying is very applicable here - "Quality not quantity"

Pfer · 16/09/2006 12:38

multitasker - just got rid of mine the other day. It took them over half a piggin hour and have got massive bruising and stitches! Still....am now waiting for the weight I gained to go, the spots to go, the mood swings to go and the libido to come back!! (Oh yes, and the tidal wave of 5 months periods to stop - bleeuuggghhh).

multitasker · 16/09/2006 12:59

Pfer - be patient and in time your inner sex goddess will (re?)emerge.

jacksma · 17/09/2006 19:47

Well a lot of this is enough to make me feel very inadequate. We used to have sex (pre birth)all the time but post natally (10 months) we have had sex once - about 3 weeks ago- I am much bigger than I was before and I imagine he just doesn't fancy me anymore. Usefully he won't discuss it at all, so that is brilliant...

bananaloaf · 17/09/2006 19:54

before we married alot when we were together, once married fell pregant very quickly and it has never recovered. did it enough to have ds2 but once in 6 months since ds2 was born and tbh i am quite happy never to have sex again.

Olihan · 17/09/2006 20:01

Never when I'm pg (which has been a lot in the last 3 years!). When I'm not, put it this way, there's 11 months from when I had ds to when I got pg with dd so maybe 2 or 3 times in that gap, then the 'trying' for dd which doesn't really count!! Dd was 7 months when I conceived this time and I think it was the 2nd time we'd done it since she was born. Dh isn't going paddling without his wellies on again, that's for sure . So, on average once every 2-3 months probably. My libido definitely upped and left during my first pg.

Thomcat · 17/09/2006 20:08

Been with DP 10 years. Have sex about twice a week, soemtimes more but never less than once a week.
We'd probably both have more if we could but we're more morning sex people and we all know how tricky that can be.

When I first met him we had sex every single day, at least once but more often than not twice or more and that went on for... not sure, but a long while.

On holiday and when i'm pregnant - different matter - we're rampant and last time I was pregant and we were on holiday at the same time - oh my GOD!

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