Wasn't sure where to put this.
DD is now 5 years old. I originally agreed that as XP is a waste of space that I wouldn't take child maintenance and he wouldn't see DD. He has no interest in seeing DD but when I asked for child maintenance he made it sound like a pay per view set up. He refuses to pay unless he sees her. His ability to see her rests on his current relationship, and whether he's in one or not. In the past, at times when he's single, he gets in touch but never actually lasts long enough to physically see her.
Maybe I am better leaving it be. But every so often I think I should sort child maintenance out officially, through court or something, and whether he sees her or not is another matter. Or maybe I should leave it, I have a good life with DD, we aren't short of anything why stir it up? But just because we aren't short doesn't mean he should get away with not paying? This is the battle I keep going round in circles with in my head.
We split up when I was pregnant due to circumstances outside our control.