Did anyone watch 'Murdered by my Boyfriend' last night?

[BerylStreep]

It was on TV last night, and is based on a true story.

It was really disturbing. At the end credits, it highlighted that in 4 years 229 women in the UK had been murdered by partners as a result of domestic violence. Really shocking and sad.

That poor woman and her family.

It was first shown in June, there's a thread already going about it.

Awful story and very harrowing.

I watched it several weeks ago. Very harrowing but definitely worth watching, I am glad I watched it.

I know about the actual case on which the true story is based, only because it happened in my county and was in the local news.

The poor woman gave up. That was the worst bit. I hope her little girl is safe and happy as she grows up.

I watched it. Depressing to see so many 'red flag' early warning signs in the story knowing there's a grim inevitability to it all. Even the part where she was talking to someone, questioning whether it was normal, and they said 'everybody fights sometimes' rang true.

If I have a criticism it's that it would be good if they had a discussion programme afterwards for people to talk about the issues raised rather than just the usual 'if you have been affected call this number' sign-off. Would elevate it from using DV as curiosity/entertainment and be more of a consciousness-raiser. Also, I think that choosing to focus on sensational, fatal examples of DV might lead some watching - who really ought to get help - not to identify with the victims.

Yes, I would have liked to have seen a discussion programme afterwards, highlighting the particular red flags that were there from the beginning. I thought it was good to show that she came from a seemingly 'normal' supportive family background and circle of friends - yet it can still happen.

I remember the NSPCC once visiting my school with a presentation and making a point that stuck with me. Namely, that abuse can happen anywhere to anyone, and is not confined to a particular socio-economic or other group. They were talking about child abuse of course, but the same applies to abusive adult relationships.

I just worry that -as these board often show - the 229 women who will die at the hands of their partners over the next 4 years are sat watching the programme and thinking 'that's nothing like my situation'.... 'my partner would never do that to me'

I also watched it & thought it was horrific , the abuse that poor girl had to endure. The coward that did that should never be let lose to do it to another woman.

I saw the last 20 minutes or so & have been thinking about it since, really disturbed me.

I was one of those it will never happen to me , I can handle him , he only loses it occasionally . I lost my eyesight temporarily after one night when he went over the edge and came home drunk , he punched my face , arms, head and bit my nose ! This is a respectable man ( or so he thinks ) , his entire family have backed him and rejected his children in order to support him following his arrest ( now u can see why women never report it ). Today we are a happy family of three, I'm at Uni and we are recovered and happy . He doesn't bother to see the children he hasn't for years

I also watched this when it first aired. It really gave me the chills, especially because I work with quite a few women who suffer from DV and just don't believe that a) things could be better for them if they left, and b) their partners are 'that bad'...

Molly, so sorry that you had to endure that, but I am really glad you were able to break free from it, and that things are now good for you and your family.