I mean kind of low key stuff, not financial control or cutting off from friends. I feel my DH can be like this but I'm not sure if I'm right. Some examples are that I've tried to bring up that I feel unhappy in the relationship but he tells me there isn't a problem. Often he tells me he doesn't want to talk about whatever it is I've brought up. He will never apologise for anything and often gets shouty and defensive if put on the spot, sometimes criticising my tone of voice rather than responding to what I'm saying. As I said in the other post, he suggested I request a time beforehand if I want to talk about things he might find boring or stressful. He suggested I don't speak to him at all when he is trying to relax by reading (this happens three times a day). If I get upset about something his reaction is usually impatience and then snapping at me when I don't take on board his practical advice about the situation.
These are general situations but there have been a few specific ones too that I can think of. He isn't always like this, often he's more open but it happens again and again. For years I just thought he had strong opinions about things, but I'm starting to realise that I feel shut down by a lot of this and wonder if it's more than that. It reads back quite horribly actually. What does it sound like?