... sexually speaking. I was going to change my name for this but can't be arsed, just hope no-one knows me . I really don't feel that my DH has much of a sex drive for a 30 something guy. I don't agree with the old myth that men are "always up for it", but DH rarely seems to be. We talk about it, a lot, and he seems to have rose-tinted specs about our past, saying how much we used to do it pre-kids, but in reality we didn't, he's always been the same, give or take a few rampant holidays .
We probably average about once or twice a month, and when we do get down to it it is great and we always say "why don't we do this more often" etc etc, but it just doesn't happen. I brought the subject up again last night and he said he doesn't often get the right vibes from me so therefore doesn't make a move, believing I won't be interested, which I don't really "get". Surely it's worth a try, it's not like he's always trying and getting turned down.
Maybe I need to more sexually aggressive and make the first move more often but I seem to have lost my sexual confidence because he never seems interested, so it's catch 22. Other than this we're happy together and have a good life, but I hate to think of us growing old and living like brother and sister.