How young is too young

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Hi, looking for some advice. Brief story, I'm 49, husband left me and kids a year ago. Too busy for dating, not really interested, been sorting out kids and my lives. Started chatting online to a bloke, who has really made me smile, very funny, good conversation. Only problem is he confessed right from the start he is only 32. Makes me feel a bit like Mrs Robinson. Now at the point of meeting.......it's a huge age gap.......not sure, but want to....

It depends what you are looking for. With big age gaps there are normally two concerns I have; 1. That the big disparity in ages is conducive to abuse by one partner to the other (not always older abusing younger) and 2. That different life stages may equal more fundamental incompatibilities which magnify over time.

Thanks for your advice, after writting this I've realized I'm not looking for a long term relationship.

If he knows your age, and you're not after a long term relationship then I can't see how age would be a reason to rule out meeting him.

If you are not looking for a long term relationship then go and buy yourself some condoms and go and have some fun with a nice young guy.
If he knows your age and that you have kids then you have been honest with him, so if he wants to meet you then what on earth have you got to lose?

Just all new to me, chatted to a few people, and get on well with him. Just horrified by the age gap. Need to meet him I suppose and put a line under it. His humour has kept me going through some bleak times....and it's bloody tempting

He's 32, not exactly a kid is he? I thought you were going to say 22 or something.

Being reasonable, I'd say 32 is fine, he's over 30. Especially if you're thinking more of fun than forever.
For myself, with a 32 year old child, I'd say 45 is more like. At 45 they're all fair game.

It's fine if you're not looking for anything long term. As long as everyone involved is a proper adult big age gaps are only a problem in long term relationships (sometimes a problem, not always).

If you have to ask, it's too young.

I don't think so, Crimea, really? He's 32 not 18!

Well obviously it's not legally or morally (well, for me at least) too young, but also obviously questionable seeing as, well, the OP has asked the question! She clearly has an issue, and I think if she has to ask the question it's too young. Plenty of other fish, etc.

The rule as I was told is half your age plus 7 so
49/2 = 24.5
24.5 + 7 = 31.5
32 is fine

A 49 yo bloke would even ask that question about a 32 yo woman.

They'll be at it like knives by the end of the week.

Go for it, OP.

I'm with Purplecircle. The formula never lies (FYI I always rounded up).

I forgot about the plus 7 bit last week on holiday. No one complained though.

I'm 39 and my husband is 12 years my junior. Go for it, it's fab having a younger man!

Really don't see any problem here...if it was the other way round, no one would bat an eyelid. I don't understand why you would be 'horrified' by the age gap...you're just two individuals who get along...who cares how old you both are, it's no one else's business but yours. I am 23 years older than my bf, I'm 46 and he's just turned 24. We've been together over five years now and have lived with each other for three and a half years...and no we're not weird...we both have good jobs and lead very 'normal' lives. Please just meet him, he could be the love of your life.

Thanks everyone , don't feel so reluctant now, he's made me smile so much, I've got to meet him :)

I've got a distant cousin whose wife is about 19 yrs older than him. He delights in telling everyone that she's stuck with him and he's the privileged one.