Strain on marriage after having children

[Jemster]

I have 2 dc, 6 & 2 years. They are hugely challenging (either that or we just stress too easily!) and it is really affecting my marriage.
Both dh & I work (me p/t) and we seem to spend our weekends trying to catch up on jobs that need doing. Either that or he takes them somewhere and I try and get the jobs done.
We are having lots of disagreements and I feel like I'm constantly nagging him as he just doesn't seem to see things that need doing.
We can't seem to find much time to have as a family anymore and I'm feeling pretty unhappy in general.
Our dc are both very demanding and dd is going through terrible twos and it is frankly terrible!
I do love dh deep down but I'm finding it hard to show. We very rarely do anything together, it is all about the children, work and doing jobs.

I'd like to know if anyone else has experienced similar and did your relationship improve as the dc got older & less dependant? Thanks for any replies, I feel pretty alone with all this right now.

I think a lot of people can get to a stage where they feel like all they do is work, housework and childcare. Everyone needs a break from that or it becomes a depressing grind and tempers fray. Do you have any family or friends that would be happy to take the DCs off you for a day or so? Do the 'jobs that need doing' really need doing immediately? Are they shared equally between you? Could you pay someone else to do the less appealing ones like cleaning? .

It's such a cliche but spending time together, just the two of you can really help you realise why you are together in the first place . Of course, that's if festering resentments have been addressed .

2 year olds are often hell. My smallest is 3 now and more adorable than hellish. Agree with previous poster, address the festering resentments if poss in the pub once a week with suitable childcare having been arranged.

We havw never bern through this but its because wr prioritise fun over jobs. Things get done but making sure we have fun always comes first. Are the jobs you are doing even that important?