Worried about friends new relationship

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My best friend split from her husband after Xmas so we've both been through the pain of divorce this year.

3 weeks ago today she went on a first date with a guy who had been introduced via a friend (I don't know him or friend)

So fast forward 3 weeks, I saw her last night.
She said he's met her dcs, she's met his, they've declared their love and discussed living together

Now I know this would not be something I would do, but each to their own. Maybe he is the perfect man, and I hope he is because she is the most beautiful person on earth.
She's very sensible and often over sensitive to her dcs needs which is probably why I'm surprised.

Should I be worried?

Possibly - keep an eye on things and be there for her to share with.

I would be. I have been worried about friends in similar situations. But like Jack says, all you can do is watch and listen and be there is and when the shit hits the fan

Your friend is still very vulnerable and could well be jumping out of the frying pan into the fire here.

Its all far too much and far too soon after just 3 weeks. They barely know each other. Also such early underlying declarations of love can be seen as a "red flag".

I would maintain contact with your friend and see her as regularly as possible.

Gosh that's super quick! Basically your hands are tied. You just need to wait, watch and see what you see.

When are you going to meet him? Maybe then you might feel more at ease

Of course I will be here for her.
So worried for her, i just hope and pray that it's everything she wants it to be, she deserves it

I'd be horribly worried at anyone, whether they were recently separated had kids or not, declaring true love etc after just three weeks. What did you say when she told you? Hope you expressed your concern

I didn't want to rain on her parade, she seems very very happy.

I just said 'wow did I fall asleep for 5 years' she said it just all feels right. She spent a lot of time messaging him last night

She has children, she's being incredibly irresponsible.

Oh dear... Obviously you don't want to wish anyone ill but the type that believes in 'love at first sight' is really making themselves vulnerable to disappointment.

We met moved in together in less than a month and engaged after 10 weeks and married soon after. Never had any problems like discussed on here no wifework, new baby, jealousy or any other kinds of issues. We have had no marital issues at all so far. However we didnt have children like your friend does

Melissa I think that's different.
When I met exh he proposed after 2 months and we lived together. But we were young, no children, we just fell in love.

I've been dating a guy for 3 months now who I like a lot but I'm nowhere near introducing him to my dcs

Also I think these quick romances that last are the exceptions not the rule.

I would be very concerned about your friend. Its early days from the divorce as it is, she should still be enjoying some freedom
... let alone going straight in to wanting to live with another man!

Be there for her. You can tactfully express concern, though. I wouldn't just act as if you think it's normal and fine. As long as you don't risk her freezing you out because she isn't hearing what she wants to, that's the tact I'd take....someone needs to think about her children.