Looking for advice

[MissS2014]

My son is 4 his so called dad has never ever bothered, he was abusive towards me and in front of my son when he was younger, he left me with a loan to pay myself and also my son, while i still kept in contact with him he never asked to see my son or ask how he was, tried to involve him at start but he was to busy with various females, since 2011 when i changed
MY contact details etc in 2012 and since i have received various letters fron solicitors and legal aid with him lying, after 3rd time applying hes been granted legal aid, i dont know what to expect with court and whether i will be listened to or if he will just be getting his way despite no interest?

Do you have a solicitor of your own? Was the abuse ever reported to the police?

Yes i have had one from when this first started with letters nearly 3 years ago, he was charged with domestic but he got me to drop it, hes so controlling etc and i just wanted to stop the threats and this whole court thing

Hand everything to your solicitor, don't engage with him directly and ask their advice. Bullies like to think they are getting to you, so don't respond and let them think they are having an effect. They are also cowards, so use your big guns (solicitor) rather than tackling them yourself.

I havent spoke to him in 3 years even when we came face to face in a shop i ignored he made a scene, but im concerned about my son, he is 4 and has said he doesnt want to see him, and he doesnt know him either, wi he get contact regardless?

Parental access is usually framed in terms of 'what's best for the child' and it is generally held that a child benefits from having access to both parent. A 4yo is not emotionally equipped to decide if they want to see a parent or not - so your DS cannot decide. However, if the father has a history of violent behaviour it would have to be judged whether he was a risk to the child and, if there was any contact at all, at best it would be supervised.