Help!! Driving my self nuts in still thinking about DXH!

[Butterflygp]

Hi... I first came on here 2 years ago after the breakdown of my marriage, it helped greatly in finding some hope to heal what was a pretty shitty time in my life.

I was married and have two DD, he left me said he didn't love me anymore, yes he cheated, I found nude pictures of him on a dating site! Anyway my point... Well I feel such a fool for saying this but I never got over him? It's been just over two years and I still feel like I love him, but how the guy did so many hurtful things to me??. About a week after we spilt he had a new girlfriend. he has just broken up with and it has Made all these feelings come back up for me, he's now nice to me and I ended up telling him I still loved him, just for him to reject me again!

I feel like a absolute fool... My life is good I have lots of friends and job I love kids are heathy but I feel s

you're not a fool - but I would say you are probably in love with the idea of him, rather than the person who he really is.

The only way is to go no contact at all and try and keep as busy as possible. Time on your own is invaluable for you really - and you can get over him.

You aren't a fool. There is no shame in being loving and having a heart full of forgiveness.

Butterfly, please please try not to feel so bad. We have all done things that have resulted in us cringing and hiding underneath the blankets. This man is totally unworthy of a lovely person like you caring about him for 5 seconds. He left his children and was unfaithful. He is despicable. I can't offer any ideas to make the pain go away, except that it will eventually go and you WILL move on and make a better life for yourself. Xxx