I've posted the dramas of my extremely dysfunctional stbx husband on here . He followedthe mld life crisisscript to the letter. Gaslighted, blame shifted, conducting an affair with a much younger work colleague. He begged me not to divorce him. Told me I was his soul mate and he'd made a massive mistake. He said he'd spend the rest of his life making up to me. What he actually did was carry on with her. I started divorce proceedings but for the sake of the children have been pleasant to his mother who met this woman while the affair was going on. Yesterday she half apologised but then went on to say she'd thought long and hard about what I'd done to drive him to an affair. I said he was a. 40 year old man responsible for his own actions and if he unhappy he should have left not cheated. She said I was naive and he had to be sure what he wanted before he left. I also said I was upset that he's seen the children once in 6 months when he introduced him to her. She said that 's them being considerate trying to take it slowly for the children. Surely a big introduction and then nothing is confusing ? I'm coming up to a year since discovery. I'm coping but still hugely resentful that I 'be been left with. 4 children while they congratulate each other about how right their actions have been. Should I let this go and remain pleasant for children 's sake. My stbx put his arms round me and told me I was "hot" when he visited last. I told my mother in law this but she's so convinced he's found his true love I could see she thought I was lying