Advice Needed!

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Me and DP were in bed last night, I was just nodding off when I turned towards her and saw her texting her best friend. At a glance (I wasn't snooping much) I saw her type the words "I have no idea why i'm depressed"

Where do I go from here? Say I saw the text at the risk of sounding like i was snooping?

I often ask how she is in general but get the default reply "I'm good, you?"

Her periods have been all over the place for the last few months and she has gone off sex.

Suggestions how to approach this? Relationship is great other than the sex thing which she has addressed and said she thinks I was avoiding it and it was all a misunderstanding and now both maybe just me are too awkward to initiate it. Long story.

Help?!

Been together 15 months

I must be getting old. The idea of being in bed with your partner and texting people just feels weird to me.... Of course you say you saw the text. It's not 'snooping' to see something accidentally. Snooping would be if you were hacking her passwords and being generally malicious.

"Saw you told you were depressed last night. Want to talk about it?"

15 months in and you've already had sex problems and now she's keeping health issues from you?
Sorry but I do wonder if you'd be better off apart

er - maybe try saying ''I saw you texting x last night and saying you were depressed''.........

I was sleeping and she obviously couldn't sleep, hence the texting, plus we had been at the theatre so she was probably catching up with friend.

Stealth I know what you are saying, but we do love each other and are in love. she is struggling with weight issues at the moment which is causing the low self esteem

I imagine she's probably depressed about her weigh issues, which will affect her self esteem.
I have weight issues but not with my OH. He tells me all the time how much he loves me, how beautiful I am etc.
I still have the issues but I am totally secure in my relationship and that means the world.
You need to tell her what you think of her, tell her how attractive she is, never criticise her appearance.
I get texts saying Hello Gorgeous on them. Never fails to make me smile and realise how much I'm loved.
I don't think you should tell her you saw the texts, but you should send her some flowers just because you can

You've posted about her before, haven't you? The more you write, the less it sounds like a good match. Basic as that

Yes Cogito :(

I do feel that maybe we aren't very good for each other. We are about to go on holiday for a week so will perhaps address it when we get back. Lifes too short to be unhappy and try to make things work I guess.

Life's definitely too short. If a relationship isn't right you have to end it quickly. Otherwise you start to convince yourself that just because you've been together 18 months, 3 years, 10 years, etc you're under some kind of obligation to keep going. Big waste of time.

Thumbs up for Cog, I'm not long out of a 12 year relationship - do I love him, yes I do, did it work, nope, not at all.