Today, ds and I played mini golf, had great fun

[PPaka]

In stark contrast to 3 years ago when my ea ex, shouted, screamed at then 3 yr old ds, because he couldn't do it. We had a huge row.
Same golf course on holiday
We have had the best day

Do I have to redo every bad memory to get rid if them?

PPaka - I remember your posts and it's lovely to hear how good your day was.

I totally get where you're coming from, my last bad memory is over-writing my terrible holiday with my stbxh last year when he said he wanted a divorce the night before our wedding anniversary.

I know I need an 'over-write' holiday but after then, I will continue to create new memories as that's what I'm loving doing over the past few months. Try and do different things that make you and DS happy, create your memories.

I'm not sure about redoing bad memories but it's certainly fun creating newer, better memories. Glad you had a great time with your DS.

No, you don't have to redo every bad memory. You'll be too busy getting on with your own life!

Although neat little moments of contrast like that from time to time are a great way to to really internalise how much better things are now.

Must feel pretty good to you right now!

its inevitable that you will end up re doing some of them and its a very nice reminder of how things have changed for the better. :-)

Well we continued to have a great time
Re-did a lot of stuff that I had bad memories about

But I think I need a bit of help, generally.
Everywhere I look I remember things he did, or didn't do

He would never let me fall asleep in the car if he was driving
It would always have to be his choice of music
He would never let me lie in.

But it's the irritation regarding ds that's really getting to me
I'm taking great delight in doing what he wants to do- he's so happy