Split up with exdp in dec after being unhappy for a few years but staying and trying to work it out for dd (together 10years). the biggest problem was that we had nothing in common anymore (along with his drinking/gambling issues). The physical attraction and humour/cheekyness that first made me fall for him had gone and there didn't seem to be anything left. I was going through a rough time anyway for other reasons but have now sorted myself out and making fresh start. I haven't been attracted to any man for a long time and thought I could just give up on relationships for now, spend some time being single but I hoped to meet somebody else in the future that I have things in common with. It's lonely not having that companionship even if its just watching the same programme on tv that you both enjoy. Haven't had that in so long.
Anyway, problem is I've recently met somebody that makes me feel like exdp used to at the start again, he's married so its not going anywhere I just met him through mutual friends and now see him regularly. Even though this isn't going to lead to anything I'm kicking myself that this is still the type of guy that secretly makes my heart race. What is wrong with me?! Hate that I'm remembering how it feels to be so attracted to somebody after years of not meeting anyone that has made me feel like that.
Even if he was single (and i dont have any intention of acting on any feelings before anyone thinks that) he is sooo the wrong type of guy for me, that's what's bothering me.
Guess i just want to get it off my chest as i can tell anybody in RL. Can you ever be happy with somebody good for you if you're always attracted to the ones that aren't so good for you?