Just ended relationship so why do I feel rubbish?

[SuperFlyHigh]

Just as thread title says. Ended a relationship which I was in earlier this year and last year, went v fast and deep until he ended it then restarted by me recently but I know his long term goals etc aren't the same as mine, he can change some of his life but I get the feeling it's all about him not so much me.

He does want to change some of his life though....

I feel so shitty - 42, childless, rubbish job and to cap it all I fell in the street and badly bruised my footso sitting on sofa with bag of peas and iPad in one hand.

- no feeling sorry for myself icon!

You're allowed to feel rubbish - you've got an owie. You could try a medicinal glass of wine, see if that helps ;)

Apart from the bad foot though, try not to feel too down for too long. It's not rubbish to walk away from the wrong one - it's really brave. It's just sad that it wasn't the right one.

could you do anything to change the job? Being single makes it a bit easier if you wanted to do evening classes, for example.

But for now, have a good wallow. It's okay to feel disappointed sometimes.

Take some time for yourself.

Maybe write a few paragraph about how you'd like your life to be in 5 years time.

Then write down what you need to do to acheive this - eg don't reignite things with ex, do some training, get fit, look up old friends, etc.

Then make a list of things to do in the next week/month to move you closer towards your goal eg start going for a daily walk, phone a friend, check out FE opportunities etc.

Good luck.

Sorry you're feeling rubbish. Would a bit of retail therapy with a good friend help to remind you of what's good in your life? Maybe online over a bottle of vino if your foot's really poorly!
It sounds like you've done the right thing with the relationship. Perhaps you could focus your efforts on making things better at work to try and take your mind off it.
If all else fails I always find tea, biscuits and a good sob helps or a new haircut's a classic remedy.
Good luck.