What would you do?

[GEM33]

Ok please be nice. I've got no intention of doing anything morally wrong here. So bear with me

I work intensely closely with someone who is in a long term serious relationship with first and only childhood sweetheart.
I am falling in lust/love with him.
Please can I make it clear I have strong views about people cheating and I would never be 'the other woman'
There is no chance of anything developing.
He will be leaving soon and unlikely I ll ever see him again.
I'm going through torture with my feelings because it's an impossible situation and frankly I wouldn't want anything to happen in these circumstances.
When he goes could I tell him that I just want him to know he touched my heart in a nice way and wish him well but say it in a completely non expecting anything way just in a your mrs is a lucky lady way or just keep my gob shut and live through the torture!!!!!
What would you do?

I would keep my gob firmly shut.

Keep schtum.Enjoy the fantasy but keep it to yourself.

What are you hoping to achieve by saying something?

You might be against cheating but you want to sow the seed in his head.

Keep quiet, say nothing.

GEM try and avoid being alone with your colleague as much as possible and don't say a word about him touching your heart or anything else.

I would say nothing.

Why do you need to tell him this?
Unless you're hoping he feels the same?

If so your above post is disingenuous.

I don't know I just wondered if I said something just before he left and not give a chance for him to say anything I'd feel relieved but yes what would it actually achieve. I try every day to focus on something negative about him to stop these feelings but he's just incredible. I just have to hope he goes soon :-(

Re avoid being alone is impossible. We work ten solid hours just the two of us all night. It's very intense job. Yes I get what you're all saying. Thank you.

Eat garlic and remember outside of work, he probably has plenty of foibles and habits that would drive you up the wall.

I'm going to disagree a little. No, you don't want to be the OW to anyone - that's a mug's game - but OTOH not everyone is as 100% happy in their relationship as they might appear. Very awkward to say to a colleague that you find them attractive and then expect to be able to carry on working with them with that hanging over your head. Don't recommend you do that. But if you stop working together there's nothing to stop you declaring yourself as long as you're prepared to risk rejection.

I'm projecting, of course. Many years ago I was in a 'long term serious relationship' with someone and it ended in an unhappy marriage. Years later I discovered that someone lovely had really wanted to tell me at the time how they felt about me but, being a decent sort, didn't think it was right. I really wish he'd had the courage to say it anyway... :)

Keep it shut! Honestly all that will happen is you will feel foolish after the event and he will feel awkward.

Socially things must be tricky when you work night shifts but when off work, go out with your friends, try and distract yourself. You see so much of this colleague you are being brainwashed.

"He will be leaving soon and unlikely I ll ever see him again. "

I would say nothing. You might be surprised how quickly you get over him once you stop seeing him for 10 hours a day.

Don't say anything..... I don't really believe you when you say you wouldn't want anything to happen otherwise why on earth would you even be thinking of saying something to him. What would you gain? It's still going to be 'torture' whatever way you look at it.