Hi recently split with three children after 17 years in turmoil have little help

[stripeycat13]

Unsure about finances if I can stay in my house, in middle of choosing schools...list goes on

Okay so what advice have you taken so far? Do you work full time? Tell us more.

No advice.I don't work atm,we ran a business i had three children under 2.5 and 2 were very premmie.they all start school in sept but obv want to settle them/be around for the usual probs before I embark on working again.

Hello, you've come to the right place.

Firstly: like all of us the first thing you do is panic.

The advice: Don't panic.

Secondly: Are you married? Who instigated the split? When did this happen?

Thirdly: Have you talked to people in RL yet? Do this straightaway - even if you have no family nearby. It was my neighbours who got me through the rough weeks.

Fourthly: Do you have a job? Don't worry if you don't.

Without knowing your circumstances, none of us an help except for saying 'don't panic'.

But it is most certain you following a path well trodden. There's plenty of people here to advise.

thanks no we never married,planned it but put it off due to circumstances beyond our control who is RL?

RL - I am assuming Real Life. In the real world -outside of mumsnet!

Go to Citizens Advie - find your nearest one online. THey can help with loads of stuff.

I'd echo the suggestion to get some legal advice and CAB is as good as anywhere. Unfortunately, as a partner rather than a wife, you don't have a lot of the standard legal protections to fall back on when it comes to assets and money. So when you ask about your house, for example, does it belong to you, him or jointly?

Hi sorry for late replies,thankyou for your advice,its a joint mortgage for 14 years.x