Hi all
Very breifly. Been with bf 4.5 years, we separated in jan for a few months after I couldn't cope with the rows and lack of communication but decided to give it another try in April. During the break I did a bit of soul searching and had councelling etc. I realised a lot of what I needed to change and became a lot happier. He on the other hand joined a dating site instantly and began dating. I instigated the break up so I guess he was hurt and felt rejected.
Things have been going ok between us until the past weekend. I went away with a friend to Spain for a short break. My daughter has cerebral palsy so I really needed some down time. He seemed a bit miffed about the weekend away.
While I was there I txt him and called him a few times one day but he didn't respond. I felt a bit ignored so txt to say I've tried to contact him etc. he then at 1am sends a message to say he hadn't seen his phone and had been busy at a meal with friends and replying at the table would be rude etc. this is quite common for him to ignore me and he knows I hate it. The next day I thought id chill and would speak to him in the evening as I wanted him to see how annoyed I was also (maybe childish) he sent a few txts and I didn't reply until the evening. He then accuses me of cheating (he's never accused me before)
I explained I was sick of being ignored but he has carried on for 2 days accusing me.
I'm so frustrated and can't understand why he all of a sudden doesn't trust me. He also can't see that his mistrust is a problem. We argued via txt for the rest of the holiday basically going round in circles, he said I can never admit my wrong doings and he's bound to be suspicious with what I did.
I don't see this working. The communication is awful and I try to put what I learnt in counselling into practice but it's so hard.
He always manages to make me doubt myself and start to blame myself instead. I just don't know what to do.
Any advice or opinions on the trust thing, sorry for banging on also xx