Etiquette for commenting on threads where ex has also commented

[Albaalba]

An ex (serious, many years ago) and I still have many of the same friends, though most contact is through FB now. If he has commented on a mutual friend's thread I don't add to that thread even if I have something relevant to say, feeling it might be a bit intrusive or something.

Is there some normal etiquette for this? Am I being over-cautious? He's never commented on a thread I've written on. I've always remained good friends with my other exes, so this hasn't come up before. This particular ex and I had a friendly break-up but things went a little downhill after and we haven't spoken in years, although there's no real reason why not. We've both moved on and I'd be happy to be in friendly contact, or at least be able to join the same conversations on-line!

You are over thinking it! Of course t's OK to comment on the same thread!

It's Facebook. Etiquette-wise, it's the Wild West. Who cares... really?

First world problem much?! .

Yes, you're over thinking it IMO. Do as you please- I'm sure nobody would bat an eyelid. If he did, do you really care??

I tend to comment on my exes threads and him on mine, although if his wife put same picture up I'd comment on hers rather than his if that makes sense... been married to dh for almost 10 years
. Only odd thing is his wife is very similar to me and my dh is similar to him. Both were students when I dated them and both gone into similar careers... guess I have a type! My other main ex who I dated for over a year was a complete sh-- so I would probably avoid commenting if he had as he'd assume I was stalking him... he was a real treasure! Lol

Thanks for the feedback. We're not FB friends, if that makes any difference? We see each other's posts though (well I see his, so I assume he sees mine).

Yes muther I comment on my other ex's threads as we've actually all become friends; but this chap is different. I suppose he's the 'one that got away' though I've since met and am very happy with my husband. I don't want my ex to think I'm stalking him- that's a worry as I tried to restart contact in the past (years ago) and he didn't seem too keen.

I avoided commenting on threads my ex commented on for a while in case he thought I was doing it deliberately to make him think about me if you know what I mean? I then realised I was being totally ridiculous, got over it and now comment on things if I want to, even if he or his now DW have commented on them before.

I find it easier to avoid FB and I don't have any exes.

If you feel you want to say anything, private message it.

i would deliberately do it occasionally just to show that you're not avoiding doing so.

Thanks. Might do it.