I'm looking for some advice,
My mother has decided we are no longer on speaking terms (news to me) and has decided to bad mouth me to the rest of the family.
It started when my little girl was taken into hospital (11 weeks old) we spent the night she had bloods the lot was horrible to witness, my other child was looked after by his other set of grand parents, my mum didn't understand this and sent me about 15 texts asking if I wanted her to have him I kept saying no thank you he is ok and his dad is picking him up once he left the hospital. This wasn't good enough I kept getting texts right the way through to about 1.30am one stating she was in fact coming down for him, I stated no he was in bed at home safe with his dad thank you for the offer but he is ok,
My wee one got out the next day, but I had to wait for parent to come in and get us, in the process I received a text stating "I know you have other things on your mind but it was your brothers annivasry yesterday send a text" I text back saying it wasn't it was today and have already done so, she went on to call me 3 times then left a message stating I was totally wrong and it was yesterday I left it as I had other things to be dealing with, the docs checked my wee one over and said to keep her away from anyone who is not well & who has been round anyone who isn't been well, she had her second jags the following week and they wanted her having these and asked me to keep her in,
I called when I got home and said I am keeping wee one away from anyone who isn't well or been round someone who isn't, my mum went on to say she was coming down for my son on the Thursday I said no thank you he is fine and you have been round people who aren't well and they have been staying with you, she said fine but I will be down on Friday, I again said no you have been round I'll people leave it till Tuesday after her jags, which was fine but I got calls from her saying "when can we all come down your sister hasn't seen her in a whole and her son hasn't seen her at all!" I said again nicely once she has had her jags, she needs them the doctors have asked me to keep her away from anyone not well etc my sisters kids have all been poorly, this didn't settle too well!
Tuesday came and she didn't get her jags as the nurse wanted her a week out of hospital and a week with a normal temp, she stated to keep her away from anyone who has been in contact with people who arnt well, she needs them next week no question asked, so I called my mum to say this & she said "your f*cking kidding me! I still can't see her" and then hung up! I didn't get the chance to explain that she isn't to be round anyone who has been round someone I'll, if you haven't you can still see her,
She was meant to call me back later on bit failed to I just assumed she was busy, Wednesday came and my little one had his friend round for a play date (they are all well and haven't been round anyone not well) on Thursday I get a phone call off a sister and it states my mum is very very angry with me she doesn't mind that I had a friend round but how dare I stop her from seeing the kids and let others see them! She also stated to my sister we are no longer speaking! I was shocked it was complete news to me!
I explained myself again and again and again! I got told I was being stupid for keeping my wee one away from people who haven't been well,
The thing is my mum is forever round my other sisters kids who are always so unwell or she has them and when she comes to visit she normally has one who is the same age as my little boy and when she arrives it's "yeah she isn't too well it's a shame" and I'm left like are you serious! Why have you brought her! But now she wants the whole clan down but all I get from my sister is how ill her littlest one is all the time! So I'm like no no one is to see her till free jags and also no if you aren't well regardless,
But this doesn't sit well.
She hasn't spoke to me for other a week she has been bad mouthing me to my family and has taken this out on my dad!
I don't know what to do as she is my mum and I love her but she has no respect for me or my wishes! I say one thing and she is aswell to stick her middle finger up and tell me to shut up!
Everything I do is not good enough I get it I'm the next for everything!
My son was really naughty and lost the t.v his bike and scooter (he ran away and over main road) she decided to go onto my Facebook page & call me out for all to see swearing and what not! I deleted it all and ignored it,
I had my neighbour round one time with her daughter and my mum walked in stood in my living room and said
"Your sister is so angry with you you better say sorry"
She tells me on a daily basis how my partners side can't stand me wants me out his life are all for his sister in law and I should cut them out because I make a f