just found out my husband has had another affair

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Posted a while back about my H and this strange behaviour well I got hold of his works phone records and god I'm such a fool, he's lied and lied there was no one else, his words were I have not been emotional or physical with anyone.
He's already had a affair 5 years ago and when I was in the process of finding out more than he told me, he lied then as well I came across a 3 year old emotional affair through the works phone records (you'd think he'd learn) and I still forgave him, but not time I am going to divorce that bastard this time.
I actually feel quite calm its probably the lack of sleep or that I have waited knowing something would come out eventually I hope I keep on feeling like this.
Thanks for reading this

Lol at the phones falling out of the pocket, I still feel fine, he's just picked the kids up didn't have to see him they are old enough to meet him outside.
Car't really think about Lawyers at the moment but for sure I will take him for everything I can get, I have put up with so much over the 20 years and didn't realise how bad he treated me till I found Mumsnet late last year and started reading, at first I thought no that's not my relationship but I was in denial. I finally woke up in March and told him to stop verbally abusing me I had never told anyone how bad it was, I have now and they were shocked but you just go along not knowing.
After our second son was born by c section I had him on the Wednesday and came home on Friday he had arranged a night out to celebrate with his mates but had to cancel, then when I couldn't get comfy in bed he told me I should have stayed in fucking hospital, he even went back to work 3 days before Paternity leave had ended telling me they needed him I now doubt that he probably had another women. God what a fool I have been.

I don't think it is ever too early to be thinking about lawyers. At least go and see one that hopefully is recommended for an initial consultation because then you will know where you stand. Never underestimate how a lying cheating twunt can up his twuntness once he has been shown the door. Forewarned is forearmed.

You havent been a fool. You have tried to keep your family together, which we all hope to do. Concentrate on making your future, don't look back. Easier said than done, even 3 years on, like me.

I'd second that. Lawyers would be my first port of call. Don't let them talk you into a 'legal separation'. They'll just get two lots of fees if you go for that, because you'll need a divorce eventually.

My post isn't clear I think. I did have a solicitor. I didn't do a DIY divorce. I just did my best to do it amicably whilst ensuring I got a fair deal.

But not everyone can sadly.

Thanks for all the messages, I will think about getting a solicitor tomorrow.

Do you have joint bank accounts and savings? I'd think about getting your own account asap and diverting credits into it such as your child benefit.

I had to freeze our bank account as he was so busy living his fantasy life he was spending money we didn't have.