Is dignified silence always the best route?

[Lookingforabetteryear]

I have come out of an ea relationship, we have a baby togther. Anyway we have mutual friends and acquaintances. So far I've said very little to them/ avoided them so as not to "shame" him. I have no idea what he tells them about our relatipnshp ending but it won't be the truth as to the outside world he's a charmer. I just wonder if I should " tell all" or leave it well alone. I have no reason to ever see said people again.

Excellent advice from Cogito.

We all need a PR from time to time!

Here!!! Here!!! To......Cogito!!!

there's a difference between being factually forthcoming and slagging him off for sport.

To begin with I tried to make everybody understand why i'd left but eventually i realised that it was only my x that didn't understand "im very unhappy" is not an acceptable reason to leave. So i started saying "i was very unhappy with him" and it was something that people instantly understood and accepted and nobody tried to argue with me and tell me I was wrong! so i wish i'd just said that from day one.

Even at the beginning I never felt I was slagging him off as it was very painful to me that he was so unreasonable and just wouldn't ever acknowledge my pov. So I really tore myself up in knots over it.

ps, yes I agree with cogito!

en vino veritas, absolutely.

I was lucky, we had no mutual friends (hmm, that was my fault apparently)