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changing daughters school...

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newstartforme · 09/07/2014 15:41

Hi all, need some advice from you all.
Split with nsdxp beginning of the year due to his heavy alcohol intake and general nastiness. So all is calming down of late. He sees our daughter every weekend two overnight stays. That seems to be going well as dd does always want to visit him.
I left the family home as he wouldnt. We have just managed to secure a tenant to rent it out, which is good as neither of us can afford mortgage alone and it was not selling... thats a whole new thread!
Anyway I moved nearer my mother as love the area and would like to settle here eventually. Problem is dd school is eight miles away by our old house. As I have to make this trip four times a day its costing a bomb, dd is only five she will be six when she starts back at school in September. I think I need to find a school that is closer by. Only thing is I know I will meet a barrage of hassle from ex p re this..
How shall I broach it? And can he block me on this??

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 09/07/2014 16:33

Eight miles away? No he can't block you. If you were moving eight hundred miles away and it would prevent him having a good relationship with your DD, maybe. But not a distance that can be covered in a car in five minutes. BTW... do you work? I'm asking because, the way you've explained it, he seems to get DD every weekend when life tends to be relaxing and you're consigned to weekdays when there's school, work and other time commitments. Was the schedule worked out with a solicitor or mediation or is it something you've cobbled together between you?

CogitoErgoSometimes · 09/07/2014 16:43

Should add on the 'how to broach it' question. Get on with the applications, get the place offered and then tell him that you're moving DD to a school nearer where you live. No need to be scared of him any more.

newstartforme · 09/07/2014 16:52

Thanks Cog, I am in process of doing just that. Just need a nice one close by with after school club. Yes I work partime. We cobbled the childcare arrangement up between us. He doesnt work SUn and Mondays. It suits for now. I will update on how I get on...

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