Wondered whether anyone had any advice on this one...my lovely SIL is 30; has always suffered from lack of confidence and low self esteem. Lots of different boyfriends over the years, none lasted long. Latest one was when she ventured into OD (huge step for her signifying big rise in confidence after professional therapy). Very happy relationship for several months, weekends spent together etc. then dumped with NC out of the blue.
She now won't try OD again and doesn't seem to be the sort of girl who attracts blokes in bars etc. (usually out with a group of friends of both sexes so a bit camouflaged if you see what I mean). Would love to see her with someone long term as I know the relationship made her much happier and I don't want her to be the only one left on her own in a few years. Other problem is that she has always house shared with various friends; because people of this age seem to have very unsettled lives she seems to have to move every year or so as groups break up and people go abroad, move in with partners etc. She can't afford to buy on her own in the city she lives in at present and really likes.
She has a good job but very busy so doesn't seem to want to commit to regular classes, hobbies etc. I know you can't make people do stuff, but it seems so sad and she is such a great girl (stunning when makes the effort, funny and kind). Our DB says it's up to her and I suppose he's right.
Any thoughts?