Is it 'right' to email my friend?

[HelenaBradley]

Quick potted history. Long term friend and I had 'words' a few weeks ago on the phone ( we don't live near to each other) around the things going on in her life and how much effort I felt she was putting into our friendship. I ended up hanging up on her because she got very angry- shouting, highly sarcastic etc. I called her back an hour later to say sorry for hanging up and for the row. It was a very brief conversation. She sent me a text the next day saying sorry BUT the text contained another sarcy comment which almost wiped out her 'sorry'', so I just replied briefly saying hoped she was ok.
Since then she has left 1 phone message about an old colleague who was on TV, and I texted to say sorry missed it, but thanks.

Now silence.

We need to clear the air- things were said which need to be discussed and hopefully mended. But I don't want to phone her because she has a habit of getting highly emotional, losing her temper etc ( this is an issue for her in her marriage and with her family) and the odds are she will end up losing it on the phone with me and back to square one.

I'm not sure if it's my 'turn' to try to build bridges based on me being the last one to text, but I'd give it a go- but is email okay in your view? It seems easier than having another emotional conversation with her which really upsets me for days.

Well she needs to hear it. And it's ok for you to say it. A period of missing each other won't hurt either of you. She maybe needs to realise what you are worth to her. It's good to call out friends from time to time in my view. They need to state their position at times. And it's alright to argue with them too. If you feel you give more then you take and that's not fun for you anymore, don't do it and see who remains your friend. These are good things to know. You can make decisions about who to see and how often in full knowledge of things then and only do what you want to do.