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My uncle

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aziraphale · 08/07/2014 19:45

Has been living in his car for three days now. We've never had much of a relationship as he's never shown much interest in my sibling and I since we were young. He's been in a relationship with a woman for about 15 years now and she's kicked him out for the nth time. He's ill, probably clinically depressed. He desperately needs an operation on the nhs but for reasons that don't seem clear he won't have it. He lives in an area with profound unemployment and hasn't worked for three years. She refuses to work and lives in the house that she received from her ex husband in a divorce settlement years ago.

My mum is pretty beside herself worrying about him. She is concerned that he has been abused by this woman but he won't talk about it. I know this is mumsnet and they don't have kids but does anyone have any idea what he could do? Mum has sent him countless offers of help and sends him money regularly but this only ever lasts so long. I feel so sad for him. Am a single parent in full time work and can't put him up but I'm scared that his situation is desperate and he may do something silly soon. He's 52. Does anyone have any advice?

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aziraphale · 08/07/2014 19:46

Just as an aside, he doesn't drink or use drugs. He's never cheated on her. It's just such an unhappy situation.

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Hissy · 08/07/2014 19:49

I'd suggest Shelter and Mankind as a starting point.

Poor thing!

aziraphale · 08/07/2014 19:53

Thanks hissy. I fear male pride is in the way bit I've tried to talk to mum tonight about mankind. That or some sort of family intervention which would really take it out of her.

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OberonTheHopeful · 08/07/2014 20:09

You can always talk to Mankind yourself (or your mum can) for advice on how to help him. The local authority may also be a good source of advice and assistance. If your uncle's partner has been abusive then the DV worker may be able to help. The details will be on their Website under something like 'community safety'. They can sometimes assist with housing.

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