am I being (yep, you guessed) unreasonable?

[thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat]

dh has been away since Fri am, coming back Sun afternoon. no problem at all as I owe him some time off. But in his absence I have done the most mahoosive tidy-up ever of every single f-ing toy in the house. every bluddy play-mobil knife, tinsiest lego piece and jigsaw piece is in its rightful place. me and dds went into town and bought a laminator and this afternoon made labels for all the storage boxes - they were both really quite excited by this and are very happy with their wonderfully tidy bedroom and very proud of their labels. We also bought dh birthday pressies, wrapped them (not exactly a big deal, I know - but wrapping 3 pressies with a 6 and 4 year old is actually quite an effort). we baked him a cake, walked to the corner shop to buy sweets to decorate it, decorated it, even did candles. I also made sure dd6 did all her homework and got into her new routine of 5 mins piano practice after tea. All in all it's been a weekend that has involved a lot of effort. I bathed them both tonight and did bedtime. and the feedback on all this? that i should never agree to sit in their bedroom for a while after lights out and its my fault they weren't going to sleep. he went to bed at 3 am last night, he's grumpy and mildly hung over and, tbh, I feel pretty f'ed off. and I'm not even sure he's realised.

he has the cruel affliction of manitis
It's terminal, defined by an inability to praise for household chores as he assumes that you should do this all the time, so therefore it's about bloody time you did it you lazy wife.
I too have one with a similar affliction
Today he removed the taps in the downstairs WC, to remove the deposits of limescale that have accrued. (i'm 12 weeks pregnant and have been a little lax on the domestic front, finding vomiting several x a day quite a challenge)
And for this complex manly task int he WC he performed, what did he want

A full on what a fabulous husband am I praise session.
I'm with you your
DH is being an ass

no you're not. despatch him to bed to be grumpy on his own, then sit in peace and revel in your tidy home.

oh you should have a big old row

let us know how it goes

No, you're not being unreasonable... he should be eternally grateful for the fact you have given im so much freedom all weekend. I know it's hard but I'd wait until tomorrow when he's had some sleep... then confront him about how unkind he's been, show him what you've done this weekend and request an apology. I guarantee he'll feel v guilty, especially if you demonstrate total maturity and reasonableness (sp?) here.

It was a foolish thing to say,but has no bearing on the w/end really (although it sounds like you made a magnificent effort)

Ignore him. Chat on here. Well done for your tidy house. Bl..dy men

You are not being unreasonable. He should be
a) grateful
b) not mentioning a hangover if he has one but struggling through it
c) telling you what a great job you did

so can't you tell him?

lol Cappucino

Well done for having such a productive weekend! I think if I were you I would be tempted to laminate DH's head to the pillow whilst he slept off his weekend - but that's just me!

you could sit down with a big slice of his cake

and then another

Next weekend you go away for the weekend obviously - in any fair proper marriage that woudl be so and he ensures he does similar things, house to be immaculate when you get home, he bakes you a cake etc.

I made my point and he conceded it. Moondog was right really - it was an irritating thing that didn't really have any bearing on everything else. We're very fair about distribution of labour. In fact, if anything, he usually does more than me. He's had the girls on his own several weekends recently so I really can't complain on that one. It slightly niggles that he doesn't do the pressie and cake thing, and might not realise how much effort it is. still feeling a bit grumbly, but I've stopped sitting with my arms folded.