We might have arrived...

[ShouldHaveMarriedTimDowling]

... To the end of our story. Just a couple of months short of our ten years anniversary.

I feel so detached from it all I am not sure whether I am irresponsible, childish, immature, mad or just sendible, realistic and fed up.

Is it normal to feel this calm before been engulfed by a vortex?

What's been happening?

Nothing specific. Just a looong string of unhappiness. (Have been posting under different names).

See I cannot even be bothered to discuss the readons, and what he did or said, whether he has been emotionally abusive or not, whether he is a twat etc

I just want to turn off the light on this and move on. From this position of distance I can even appreciate parts of my H, who could be easily and happily be DEH. I just need distance and to be left in peace.

But I guess a separation is everything but that...

Yes if you have already gone through a period of emotional detachment then what you are describing can be quite normal.

I was so ready to get divorced I found the experience liberating and not the slightest bit stressful. Every solicitors appointment / mediation session was a step closer to freedom.

Whatever the reasons for arriving where you are, you sound more than ready for the next step.

That's not to say you may not feel grief, anger and other things at a later stage, so just be quietly prepared for that.

Good luck