A year ago tomorrow I had the speech...

[Minime85]

A year ago tomorrow my ex told me he loved me but wasn't in love with me anymore. I feel a bit odd about this anniversary. To be honest I can't believe a year has gone by. My life now is so much better.
I went through some very dark days trying to get him back which was quite frankly a waste of our lives as he was never committed to it.
Now I'm happily living with my two dcs, working full time and dating
What can happen in a year is mind blowing. Thank u to anyone who gave me help and advice on mnet. I have found this forum invaluable throughout everything.
Here's to the future

That's so Inspiring on a night where I'm feeling down! Good for u!!!!! X

I should have put we had been together 13 years and were just a few weeks off 10 yr wedding anniversary.

I hope you feel brighter soon x

I wasn't aware of your history, Minime.

That's so good to read.

If I'd known before what my life would have looked like a year down the line, I'd have left. And I'd have done so many, many years before. I used to say that I felt like a new person. My brother said that I was finally able to be the person I always should have been.

Onwards and upwards, eh?

Thanks folk. Feels very odd as I'm happy now but it's a 1st to get over too.

Same here! Things started changing in May/June and ex finally left on August 3rd. I feel so much better now he's gone and time has passed. Kids are doing fine too and I'm dating a lovely guy too.

We'd been together for nearly 12 years, married for only 3.

I love my life now! Glad you have come out the other side well too :-)

Same here my now exw told me 1 year ago tomorrow she had an affair with someone from work, I was devastated with support from friends and people on here my life is so much better, cycling , walking , 2 stone lighter and the kids seem to have adjusted to the situation and are so happy.
I am seeing a lovely new person...life is so much better, I haven't told her but she did me a favour....and I kept the house, result.

I'm another 1 year on survivor. We had The Talk a year ago next week and separated after 23 years. As awful as it was, the most overwhelming emotion I remember at the time was relief. Relief that it was finally all over and we could start to move on with our lives.

I've had ups and downs but my life is now so much better and I feel like the sun has finally come out after a very long time. I feel like the person I used to be again - happy, positive, cheerful. I didn't realise at the time but I'd spent many years being unhappy, nervous, anxious and sad.

I'm also dating again. It's fantastic I'm loving every minute of my precious new life.

Congratulations to you all!

sassy We'd been together for 12 years and married only for 3, too...

Great to hear everyone's positive stories and that we aren't on our own. That's what I found invaluable about mnet realising, unfortunately for those it's happening to, that I wasn't alone. Waking up to a very different 1st day of the rest of my life today.

Sassy, roller good luck in that dating game and here's to staying and being happy in our own skin

Herald great to hear your positive story too. Funny isn't it that we feel thank goodness that happened sometimes!

Wello done you, what an inspiration. Celebrate yhat anniversary!

Does a 6 months anniversary count? It's 6 months since I scraped and borrowed to pay the deposit on a lovely little house, gathered up my 3 babies and walked away from my abusive stbxh. So much happier and lighter now, despite his ongoing fuckwittery, my babies are contented and life is calm if chaotic

Congratulation to all..no regrets..here's to the next 6 months

Curt absolutely happy 6 months in. Sounds like you are one strong lady