Having to see father of child- does it get easier??

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I was in an bad relationship. It's over now. I know being with him is not good for me but when I see him so he can see dd it just makes me miss him and feel heartbroken. How do you get over someone when you have to see them every two weeks??!!! Anyone been through this??

How old is DD?

Do you really have to see him? If DD isn't old enough to answer door and leave then can you take her to your parents/a friends for him to pick her up from?

Don't think of this as losing face? You are just protecting yourself.

Just a baby. Yeah maybe famiy is better
But may be awful for him as they really dislike him x

I completely understand what you're going through OP. I was the same with XP even though he had been atrocious towards me. I would close the door after he's collected DS and just break down. It really does get easier, I think it was after about 5 months that I realised I was far better off and now, although things are incredibly strained I can't stand him, it's much easier than the emotional upset.

Be kind to yourself, you are going through a huge change and it will take time to adjust

So what if it is awful for him? I am guessing they have a good reason to dislike him and they aren't just rude and horrid?

Let your family step up until you feel stronger. I absolutely promise you that day will come.

thanks guys. I know I dont know why I care about his feelings anymore. Ea went on in the relationship and during pregnancy he would scream and shout and say terrible things to me yet I'm still heartbroken. I just need to
Make drop offs as swift as possible.

And thanks for feedback

But may be awful for him as they really dislike him

Yes, dreadful. Poor him.

In fact, I'm not sure I'd bother your family, as I'm sure they don't want to see him either.
You could tell him to arrange for someone else to do the pick ups instead.

Treat it as business. Exchange of childcare arrangement only. Not concern or friendliness required.

Yeah true thanks