How to get over heartbreak?

[Broken222]

My heart has been broken. It's the first time this has happened to me and I think if I'd known how horrific this would be I don't think I would have ended the relationship. But I did. It was the right thing to do, but I feel utterly broken. It's been a couple of weeks. We were together under 2 years but both thought we had met our 'one'.

How long until I don't cry every day at the drop of a hat?

Is no-contact always the best way, despite there being no animosity at all?

What can I actually do to help myself? I feel nauseated and on the verge of tears almost all the time. I think part of me has shut off - I feel cynical and bitter and unhappy constantly.

I've been through some bad times in my life but this is so powerfully awful.
Any help appreciated.

I'm sorry you're so upset. If it was the right thing to do, underneath all the tears there will be a kernel of rock hard sense that will eventually win the day. If you were the one that took the initiative the recovery period is usually shorter. No contact is generally best, yes, especially if you're wobbling. There doesn't have to be animosity, it's just important that you start putting the 'ex' in the past and focus your energies on the present and future in which they don't feature.

Be kind to yourself and be with people who love you. Tell them you're having a bad time and need support - even if it's just to split a few . Make sure you eat, even if it's not a lot and get as much sleep as possible. Consider talking to your GP if you're really struggling for longer than seems reasonable. You don't want to add illness to sorrow. Stay busy because having something constructive to think about will help prevent you from dwelling. The sun will come out one day soon, you'll stop crying and that's the time to do whatever you can to put one foot in front of another and make some kind of move towards the future.

Good luck

Out of curiosity, why did you end it? I presume there were good reasons, and you have to focus on them and remind yourself of them when you feel sad.

Time is all that really helps....you are grieving the dreams you had of a future together that weren't based on reality

The first time always feels like the worst.... Experience in loss helps you to deal with future losses

Day goodbye to the images you had of your future together, cry your eyes out and time will heal you quicker than toucan imagine right now ....when you are ready, dust yourself off, dress up nice and go out with your best girlfriends.... Have some you time and don't rush into another relationship for about 6 months....

We have all been there.... Big hugs

Thanks for the replies. The reasons we broke up are solid, we hurt each other.
I'm in bed now as my sleeping has become too little and is contributing to me feeling crappy. I can't tell what pain is illness or sadness at the moment.
I want to get in touch so badly and talk and talk but it would only make things worse for us both.

Sleep is good. Food is good. Talking to him won't help very much but talking to your friends will. Do you have someone you can call?

So sorry for what you're going through. The pain is mental and physical. On the physical side you may feel nauseous, you may feel real pain around your heart and shoulder. I know I did and doctor did full breast examination but it was just stress. That's how this utter 'black hole' pain manifests itself. Take one hour at a time or even 5 minutes at a time to try and make yourself a cup of tea. Try and see a friend or 2. Just be gentle and kind to yourself. I really wish you well, I really do.

Thanks. I am seeing an old friend tomorrow. I desperately want to cancel and stay home and mope but I'm going to force myself to go no matter how bad I feel. This friend needs me too.
Im trying to have something to do most days as otherwise it just feels worse.