Documenting Correspondence

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My H and I are in the process of separating (I am leaving him, we have 2 DDs) and I am getting paranoid that he is now sending me long emails that I feel are documenting his side of things.

I don't want to get into long heated email exchanges with him but I feel that if I don't respond to set the record straight/give my side that he can then use these emails as ammunition and it could be seen as me agreeing by not responding.

Am I being paranoid, should I respond or be the bigger person or is that being naive?

I'm sure his long e-mails are documenting his side of things. You're not being naïve However, if you don't respond in writing, he doesn't have any ammunition at all, he has a monologue. Absence of a response does not equal agreement. Stick to the purely practical only e.g. what time he's collecting DCs or whatever, and for everything else refer it to your solicitor, assuming you have one.

Goods points, thanks Cogito.

Ps we haven't gotten to the solicitor stage. Hoping we can try to do some of this ourselves maybe with a mediator.

It is early days as I am just about to move out with the children (but he is moving out too and we're both going into temporary rental homes).

Blimey... you're still under the same roof and he's sending you long e-mails already? Get legal advice before you go to mediation so that you're not agreeing to something that isn't fair. Also remember that mediation only works with reasonable people. If he proves to be unreasonable, even though it costs more, give it to the professionals.

True. He's travelling now overseas which is why we are sending emails but we do have a history of arguing over email which I am trying to break!

However he is still hurting and doesn't want this to happen and I am still angry and snappy with him so emotions are all a bit raw.

Plus we're moving house and looking for housing so a lot of balls in the air so no doubt tensions are a bit high.