rude ex and wanting my stuff back...

[candyce83]

so i text my ex gf today to ask for my stuff back, i have all my books, cds, clothes, and dvds in her attic..i also have a siouxsie sioux frame picture worth over 200 pounds that she has. we've been split up for over a month…she ended it. i told her she could leave it outside her door and id pick it up...

her response was incredibly rude..she said she couldn't be arsed to pack all my shit but would anyway…i initially ignored it and was really polite. i said i didn't want any animosity and for things to have ended nicely. she told me to chill out and went on to twist my words and said how happy she was without me, fair enough. she has borderline personality disorder...

truth is im thinking she thought i wanted to get back with her but i just want my stuff. is that so wrong to ask?

question is am i wrong to be upset over her rudeness?

she also owes me 40 pounds from something id sold on ebay(which she then went on to spend after shed told me shed give it to me)

argh!!!

Just go get your stuff and move on with your life. Be glad that you don't have to spend time with someone who is rude to you any more.

i am moving on, i can honestly say im the happiest ive ever been thanks to our split! i just can't believe how rude she was to me…it made me feel pretty bad about myself..

Depends why you split up really. You sound very young so maybe just one to chalk up to experience

It seems you've gotten off cheaply! 40 pounds is not much, in the broader scheme of things.

If she's rude to you, that is more a reflection of who she is, than of who you are. And if she was respectful of you, you'd not be splitting, would you? I know it's upsetting, but don't let it make you feel bad about yourself. Think maybe of holding up a mirror to her; she's showing you who she is and you reflect that back to her but don't let it hurt you. maybe?

As quickly as possible, get over there and get your stuff. Say thanks very much, have a nice life and get out of there as fast as you can. And best wishes for a happier future.

im 30 she's 37….shes dumped me well over 50 times because of her bpd. push pull all that sort of thing..white/black thinking, projection, gas lighting. i guess i just felt sorry for her. she dumped me because she says "i try to control her feelings." which is total bullshit because i have always been an attentive partner and understanding. this is the way personality disorders work…us nons can't fathom the craziness that goes on in their minds…

i had a nervous breakdown and went into hospital and told my workmates to not come and visit me because she wasn't going to come see me. then she dumped me while i was in there and got back with me. it was all about her...i just feel like its all my fault like im not good enough...

It's only stuff...move on with your life-good luck

I feel like a few responses have been pretty patronising....yeah its only "stuff," but I dont have much money so yeah it does matter to me when she has at least a grands worth of my stuff and 40 pounds.

You do sound immature TBH.

Go get your stuff then she'll be out of your life. Who cares if she was rude? you're not with her anymore so why does it matter? Go get your stuff, or even better get a friend to then no chance for you two to argue and ger to be rude. Then move on.