A quick summary: I have 5 month old DS and getting married in a couple of months. I have/had a very close friend (very close until I moved away) who lives 3 hours away. I haven't managed to visit recently as had a difficult pregnancy with SPD and now obviously have DS and planning wedding etc.
Text message arrives saying she can't come to wedding for minor reason related to transport. I immediately offer to sort problem but now have not heard back. It's clear she and partner don't want to come.
I'm hurt (mainly by the impersonal text) but not that surprised. Friend hasn't really been in touch much since birth of DS despite efforts on my part. Invited her to stay two or three times. We have another joint "acquintance" who had a child at a similar time and she has visited her twice already, texting me photos of the baby as if making a point.
It's clear to me that I have been dumped. I understand that some friendships are difficult to maintain especially when significant distances are involved. But I'm hurt by the way I have just been dismissed. There are plenty of lovely friends coming to my big day and I know we will have a fabulous time but this is niggling away at me. I'm not sure what I have done wrong.......or whether to confront her. I guess I should probably just let her fade out of my life in a quiet dignified manner.......
Any thoughts?