Is there any hope? *lighthearted*

[BareFacedKitty]

I say this is lighthearted, but mine is heavy at the moment after being dumped and finding myself single yet again... I'd love to hear some pick me up stories from those who have now found their perfect partner to cheer up my lonely Saturday evening. What age were you when you found Mr/Miss Right? And where were they? Did you have a string of disasters before you met them or is it just me...?

My boyfriend of 5 months decided within the last few days that he just didn't want to be around me any more confused even though all had been great before. I have my suspicions about the truth, but I'm trying hard to move on. Before this partner I met a guy last year who broke my heart by deciding to go back to his ex. And another guy played me like a puppet, promising me the earth but was only after someone to pass the time. And finally there was the mentally ill mysoginist. Previous to all this there was an EA fiancé. Just how much bad luck must I endure before I find a decent man who wants a relationship? Is this amount of crappery from men normal?

I was 30 when I met my now DH.

Had spent 6 months not dating after a 2 year relationship that ended really badly and another one before that. Always went for the same type, I could see it but just never found other types attractive. It was like I could sense them- emotionally wounded by previous relationships, unable to make commitment, carrying lots of baggage, funny, working class backgrounds, liars. I had decided I would rather be alone than go through it again and had spent 6 months just looking after me and deliberately not looking at any men.

Then one day DH walked into my life-introduced through a course. It was absolutely instant. I thought he must be the same type as usual but he wasn't. He was unattached, genuinely what he seemed, totally decent, kind, warm, funny, clever and honest - and attractive! He had the same reaction to me- instant. We have similar backgrounds, the same values and similar influences.

We didn't rush, - didn't sleep together for quite a while, didn't talk about the future (although we both thought about it). Went on holiday to France 8 months later and got engaged. Married a few months later; no big fuss it was just how we wanted it.

We had a few years alone because we just wanted that time to enjoy ourselves. Am now 14 weeks pregnant. I have never ever doubted him and since we met, have never felt that awful feeling when you don't trust someone.

well my husband fancied the arse off me but i was in a relationship with my ex and him (big bad marine back then) was far too shy to talk to me i moved house he moved on

one day when he was at his wife's nans house he looks down the garden and there i am miss single parent and scandal of the neighbourhood!

when his marriage went south a few years down the line he left her and plucked up the courage to ask me if i wanted to try a life with him i was a bit but it had been awhile and i couldn't deny i was attracted to him he put it to me like have a bit of fun you never know what might happen well what ended up happening was i got pregnant (he had been categorically told by the doctors he could never have children we got careless and didn't think it mattered we were both clean tested and he couldn't have kids what could possibly go wrong!)

we did have a bit of trouble with his ex because despite moving on herself she really did not like the idea of him having a child so we moved (quite a bit) and it settled (well she doesn't have our address so the damage she does is minimal)

we have had wobbles his ex cheated constantly it makes it hard for him to trust sometimes but he said he knows i'm faithful so he just has to get out of the mindset it means he can be grumpy occasionally (someone sent me a text by mistake he really got devastated then sorts things out and we are fine again)

we are romantic and happy but human too he is the only man i ever wanted to marry if it goes wrong i really wont bother again

its imperfect but its ours

I'm 43 and choose to be single for 6 years following a EA marriage. I met Mr Right this year, and I have never been happier. Of course our situations are a bit complicated with 4 kids, but neither of us make them more complicated.