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Holiday problems - just about ready to throttle DH

37 replies

DontGiveAwayTheHomeworld · 05/07/2014 12:17

He's got a week off work, DS has finished nursery for the summer, and I'm already tearing my hair out. We've had one row about my parenting already (apparently I give DS too much independence that he's not ready for, then I get snapped at for hovering over him, I can't win) the house looks like a hurricane tore through it, and DH is lounging on the sofa watching cartoons on the computer, leaving me to sort food/games/toilet for DS.

I was actually planning on getting some of my own work done this week - I'm midway through a novel and DH being home was meant to give me some dedicated writing time for a change. It looks like that isn't happening now, since I'm stuck doing the same things I do every day. If anything, there's more work to do because DH just creates mess, which he won't clean up.

I feel like screaming. It's only the first day, I don't know how I'm going to get through the rest of the week.

OP posts:
Finola1step · 06/07/2014 08:22

Oops. Posted too soon.

So, when I have my lovely 5 weeks off work, it would never occur to me to think of this as "my holiday". During those 5 weeks, I will take over all the looking after dc, cooking, etc so that my freelancer husband can concentrate on work (and not have to juggle childcare). We will have lots of family time and I will get time to myself when the dc are in nursery and sports clubs at the same time.

If I need a day to myself, no problem, we will sort it out. My time off work is there to make life a bit easier for both of us. Not to give my a nice break will dh carries on with all his responsibilities that he has when I am working out if the home.

DontGiveAwayTheHomeworld · 06/07/2014 10:23

I actually got some work done yesterday afternoon! The pub I go to isn't showing the world cup, so it's nice and calm. I listen to music with my headphones, which causes no end of rows at home but does block out background noise.

Another fight last night - I came home around 10 to find the living room a mess again and him in bed because "I don't feel well." He's fine, no temperature or throwing up or anything, so I have very little sympathy. I've left him in bed this morning because I can't be arsed to deal with him.

OP posts:
AllDirections · 06/07/2014 10:29

Drag out that birth certificate, point to his name on it Haha that's really funny. Maybe you could frame it and put it on the wall OP Grin

Egghead68 · 31/08/2014 21:47

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Horsemad · 31/08/2014 23:12

You dredged up a post from nearly 2 months ago to point that out Egghead68??? Or, do you happen to know the OP?

gamerchick · 31/08/2014 23:18

With a thread from last year? Confused

Horsemad · 31/08/2014 23:22

Yep, what a weirdo!!!!!

Egghead68 · 31/08/2014 23:23

Yep.

In the light of a current thread where the OP has wound everyone up royally about a similar issue.

Horsemad · 31/08/2014 23:24

Can you link?

Horsemad · 31/08/2014 23:33

Regardless of whether the child is biologically her DH's, what actual difference does that info make to her complaint about her DH doing sweet FA in the house/childcare stakes because he's on holiday?

dangerrabbit · 01/09/2014 09:26

Glad you got to do some writing, OP.

As others have said, it sounds like he considers his holiday time a holiday from all responsibilities, not just annual leave from work.

How did it go for the rest of his leave? Did you manage to get any more time to yourself?

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