PIL trouble!!!

[JellyNump]

DH and I went to France for 2 weeks in beginning of August and did the shortest Dover - Calais crossing, then had to drive 11 hours to SW France. On the return, as PIL live near to Dover we stayed the night there to sleep properly. PIL got in from work, played with dd for a bit had tea and drank 2 bottles of red between them and got pssed, ended up having a huge argument, both like school kids, MIL hadn't taken advice FIL had given her but FIL talks to MIL like a piece of sht!!! Both shouting and screaming at each other. DD was in the next room (we slept on airbed in living room) and luckily was asleep. I went in to see DD, who woke up but didn't seem to mind the shouting from next door but I cuddled her in close anyway and tried to reassure her (she is just 6 months) DH tried to sort them out, told them both off and said we won't visit again if drinking carries on as we don't want to see it and certainly don't want DD to see/hear it as she would be frightened! The following day all seemed fine, no mention of it and no apology.
After 2 weeks we visited again, they didnt argue but were pssed. I hadn't wanted to go down again because of the last time, so wasn't looking forward to it, but went for DH (we're in Bristol, they live in West Sussex so quite far) He was annoyed they had been drinking again and we nearly got back in the car and went home. I'm worried now as they have spoken about taking DD out to France with them when she is a bit older but there is absolutely no way I will allow it! I can't trust them not to get pssed and I certainly won't have them arguing in front of her, I'd hit the roof if they scared her. I really don't know what to do if they bring this up and don't feel particularly comfortable visiting them or for example asking them to babysit if we were there and wanted to visit friends on our own!!??? Not sure what to do, don't want to stop DH seeing his parents but don't want DD to be scared by p*ssed PIL

i would still visit them for your dh's sake, but i definitely wouldn't leave her with them. and i'd be very blunt about it - that it's because of their drinking.

Would still visit on an occasional basis but certainly do not stay with them again in their house. If they are like this when you are there or come to visit what are they like when you are not?

It does seem that FIL and MIL have issues between them and drinking seems to fuel the rows they have.

Does DH feel that they both have a drink problem?.
Does DH still want to see his parents after all this?. Has he tried to talk to them about their drinking?

Oh gosh...DH & I had a major falling out with his parents at dd's 1st birthday and all because they were both P*ssed as farts. I was the only sober one.
Differnt situation to your BUT it was the fact they were so drunk and arguing and shouting at me in my home..like you I was worried as dd was asleep at the time.

It took 9 weeks to finally see them and to speak to them BUT still after 4 months I have not had an apology. My soluton (hard though) was to still see them along with dd, mainly as I want them to see us united and not affected by them..BUT under no circumstances will I be around them when drinking..either outside or at our home. Such a shame as it's nice to have the odd socail drink but I couldn't trust them or MYSELF for that matter not to have "round 2".

TBH, If you visit them I would suggest staying in a b&b or hotel and that way you have an excuse not to be around them at night when they are drinking..

I would also stand your ground about dd going away with them...but won't that be a while off..?? Maybe they may have changed their minds come a year or 2 down the line..??

sorry meant to say I see them with dd and dh...