Me and dh have been together for 22 years. It has never been an easy relationship. He has always drank more than I would like him to. We have split up twice because I wanted to leave him, but we got back together more because he wanted to. He has changed a lot doesn't drink as much, but I still find it an absolute pain. He has to get the train to work everyday in London. So travel is a big part of his day. Somedays (like tonight) he comes back looking a bit lke he has had too many. It drives me mad because when I say something it ends in a row. He is now been crashed out since eight and also ds sees him like this. If I behaved like that he would go crazy. He always makes an excuse like he had a bad day. I'm sick of it and always having to watch every penny at the moment. Its not every day, but at least every couple of weeks.