Where do you go when you break up?

[Pinkandpurplehairedlady]

DH has asked me to leave and says I can only take the children if I'm going somewhere safe. Where do I go? Will the council help me?

I have two children, DD 4 and DS 3. I gave up work 18 months ago to be a SAHM. I've always planned to go back once they are both at school and have been doing volunteer work to help with that.

I have no money of my own / access to any (his cash is kept in a safe and I don't have the key and I don't have access to his bank account).

He is the sole tenant on our house after he succeeded the tenancy from his nana (I could have gone on the tenancy at the same time but he didn't want me t

Lucky you chose to work there

If your DH suddenly turns reasonable do not fall for it, ok?

(He sounds completely cold blooded - I was married to one just like him if your description is anything to go by)

You sound so strong. Well done for getting things in place so quickly!

It is awful that you are the ones who have to lose out Still, he will lose out in the long run when he dies sad and alone and you have your wonderful children, and your freedom :)

Bloody hell, I missed the memo that said that your "D"H was king of the world and got to change all the laws of the land on a whim!

Take no notice of him. He is blustering and pissing in the wind. You have rights on your side - both legal and moral - and he cannot have it all his own way.

Set your mind to "silent seething determination" and go out to win - for you and your DC's sake. Controlling, abusive arseholes should not be allowed to get away with this shit

God he's made me angry can you tell?!

Good luck OP. Keep posting for support and avice

So glad your work are being supportive.
You've not been blind - you've been 'blinded'
2 very different things.
You are wising up now.
So get angry, get strong and kick him to the curb.