Hi - am mum of three teenagers, divorced 3 years.
Have spent the last 5 months in a loving warm relationship with a man whose 'sell' to me was on his honesty and trustworthiness. Whilst I was cautious he led the speed of the relationship. Spent time with his mum, his uncle, he took son for driving lesson, his idea to have both sets of parents for fathers day at his house and was hands on getting to know kids. He was delighted me and his mum hit it off. He told me he had fallen in love with me and we shared some incredibly personal conversations which resulted in him saying I was in his head and knew him better than anyone. He suggested a holiday and talked about how in the future we would manage both our houses and live together.
He has been separated from his wife (second separation from her in 5 years) for almost a year. No shared children only her grown up sons- source of angst in their marriage - and no contact for 2 years. The separations cost him a lot financially (he struggles with this fact). In his eyes she took everything.
When she heard he was seeing me she text and emailed him and created a reason to meet him. He asked her for a divorce. she answered yes and that she still loved him. (didnt tell me the last bit)
Now three weeks later he finishes our relationship angrily (by text) wont meet me or talk to me. He told me he sees no future, his mum it was too intense and now to me he is in love with her. He is so angry. His dad said this is what he does and he was so sorry he was doing it to me. His mum is furious with him and said his behaviour was disgusting and him going back to the ex was ridiculous and would not be supported.
He rang me yesterday - called me names for talking to his mum and hung up.
Am so confused and hurt - kids are too. Took me a long time to let him in - he knew my previous and how scared I was of taking the steps.
Anyone makes sense of that as it goes round and round my weary head.