Stupid questions/thoughts about sex - please help!

[Queenofthedamaged]

Ok, to start of with anyone with a TMI filter switch channels now. Thank you.

I am a thirty-something in a loving relationship and I'm just not sure if I've ever orgasmed. I think I have trouble switching my brain off during sex, so it has become rather a one-sided affair over the years - we don't have sex often and when we do it's rather of the 'wham bam' nature. Mostly, it has to be said, because of me not wanting to, erm, not come. IYSWIM.

Also, I don't masturbate. Well, I did give it a go the other night, but again had the switch-off issue.

For some reason this has recently become a bit of an issue for me, and due to the nature of our physical relationship I can't seem to be able to tempt dh into bed with me!! Am horny, can't relax, not sure what to do.

Please help! I need suggestions and also, if there's anyone prepared to, some kind of idea of what an orgasm feels like in reality - not just sexy lit which tends to be 'ooh, tension inside and then a wonderful exposion washed over me and i screamed out in release' stuff. well, the stuff I've read anyway. I seem to get the tension bit but not the other!

Ta x

Will practice! Have a mini rabbit-type thing, as am unable to touch myself with myself (aha, those ishoos again). It is good to know I'm not on my own! Am more prepared to try things out than dh is these days...

I really hope you get it sorted OP.

Remember, the chances of it being a physical problem are so small, but it sounds as though you accept that it's a mental issue/block.

Having said that, I do agree with investing in a rabbit and trust me, it is an investment Don't bother with the....ahem....main bit?? Just use the clit bit (ears) Put it on fairly low speed initially and then speed it up. Honestly, I cum in about 10 seconds with those. You just don't have time to have a mental block! I'm not taking the piss, I completely understand where you're coming from with that.