Hi
I'm trying to find out if this would be appropriate, any advice much appreciated.
I split up with my ex 5.5 years ago. We have 2 dc, now 9 and 6. My ex was very resistant to the ending of the relationship and still claims to be very hurt and a victim. He refused to buy me out/sell the house, we went to mediation (but he'd only go if I agreed to everything with him first, and then said though he'd agreed to it he certainly wasn't going to do it) so eventually I started court proceedings and that part was resolved.
He found paying maintenance by standing order difficult as he would prefer that I would have to ask him several times each month before he paid it, so I have gone through the CSA.
Access has been an issue for him as he would like it to be on a flexible basis - i.e., if its a sunny day he'd like to have them, not if a football game is on - and after years of trying to be flexible I have had enough and now give him a calendar of several months to a year ahead. He has good access.
On a general level he is unreliable and untrustworthy and cannot stick to his word.
Since splitting up he is generally verbally rude, and is in contact frequently, phoning, texting and emailing often. I have counted up and its on average 15 times a week, which I think is unnecessary for the arrangements we have. Often his reason for ringing is to say how upset the children are because of something I have done/not done/to tell me they miss him so much. I have recently moved in with a partner and it has been worse since then.
Would a non molestation order be appropriate? I don't want to stop him seeing the children, I just want him to leave me alone, and though I have asked him repeatedly to stop he just gets really sarcastic and does it more. He won't do this in front of my partner but if he gets me alone he will go on and on and on at me - generally about how unreasonable I am for not spending time with him, and how this is really upsetting for the children.
Thank you!
x-posted in legal