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Would you be unhappy with this?

28 replies

colditz · 09/09/2006 13:52

Dp is going out at 5pm tonight, will come back at lunchtime tomorrow, then going to the pub at 8:30 to do the pub quiz.

He usually works weekends, so doesn't do this all the time.

I am not putting my opinion, I want to know yours first!

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motherinferior · 09/09/2006 13:53

I would not be pleased.

mosschops30 · 09/09/2006 13:54

Is he going away, if so then fair enough he cant be expected to come home, but if he is staying local then I would expect my dh to come home in the evening.

WigWamBam · 09/09/2006 13:55

If it was a one-off then it wouldn't bother me, or if dh did it occasionally and I got to do it sometimes too, then it wouldn't bother me. If it was a regular thing, or if I didn't get the chance to do the same thing sometimes, then I'd be mightily hacked off.

SherlockLGJ · 09/09/2006 13:55

If he normally works weekends and he has one off, a big bit of it should be given over to family time.

I will not post the rest as I am very fond of you Colditz.

QueenEagle · 09/09/2006 13:56

If this is a one-offish thing then I would say it was ok. I would be very slightly miffed that he wasn't spending his weekend with us but the man deserves some space and chill out time doing his own thing.

If it were me doing what he is doing I would probably say I deserved some time off.

So go on then, what is your view, colditz?

moondog · 09/09/2006 13:56

I don't think you have much that is good to say about this bloke full stop do you???

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colditz · 09/09/2006 13:57

He is going to another city. A taxi back would be very expensive, and he can't drivew even if he didn't drink.

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airy · 09/09/2006 13:58

I wouldn't mind the overnight trip, if he's too far away to come home that's fair enough. But after doing that I'd expect him not to go out again tommorow and spend some time at home tbh.

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colditz · 09/09/2006 13:59

Actually, I don't mind at all!

My neighbour said she would be furious, but I am quite pleased! I can have the TV on UK Gold and mumsnet at the same time - usually I have to choose.

I thought she was being a bit 'strict' but evidently I am far too relaxed about this sort of thing.

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QueenEagle · 09/09/2006 14:00

Don't you find though that you don't do anything or go out for ages then two events will come up on the same weekend? Bit mean to say he can only go to one of them.

If colditz gets to do liekewise with a night away now and then I can't see there is a problem. Unless there is much more to this than meets the eye?

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colditz · 09/09/2006 14:00

I should have put in my first post, he has booked next week off work and will spend it with us.

asorry that changes a lot, doesn't it!

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colditz · 09/09/2006 14:01

I don't go away overnight at all, I can't, I am too attached to my own bed. He wouldn't mind if I did, he says.

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airy · 09/09/2006 14:02

Yeah, if he's booked next week off to spend with you then that wouldn't bother me at all. Only if it's a rare (you say he normally works wk'ends) occurance and he chose to stay away the whole time would it bother me.

ProfYaffle · 09/09/2006 14:03

I've had similar this weekend. dh was out last night, is currently in bed with a hangover and is going out tonight, staying out and won't be home til about lunchtime tomorrow. (and will probably be in bed with a hangover this time tomorrow as well)

I'm a bit p*ssed off about it tbh but he doesn't do it all the time so I'm trying to get too wound up.

If, as Sherlock said, he doesn't get many weekends at home, I would go nuts.

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colditz · 09/09/2006 21:06

Night shift?

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JellyNump · 09/09/2006 22:41

i wouldnt be too impressed, wheres he staying?

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colditz · 09/09/2006 22:42

he's staying at a mate's, who has a live-in girlfriend, so there won't be any bringing girls home by anyone.

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expatinscotland · 09/09/2006 22:43

This would displease me.

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colditz · 09/09/2006 22:53

Hmm

Do you feel I am not making enough of a fuss here?

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JoolioTooterini · 09/09/2006 22:56

well if you don't mind that's all that matters isn't it?

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colditz · 09/09/2006 23:01

I suppose. I am a bity worried now, do you think I should have made more of a fuss? will he think I am a walk over? I'm not, I'm sure, I have quite an aptitude for getting my own way.

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dmo · 09/09/2006 23:03

i think its good to have a relationship like that
i too would not mind if its a one off
dh often goes to concerts etc i love time on my own

sallystrawberry · 09/09/2006 23:04

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Xavielli · 10/09/2006 09:38

It wouldn't bother me either colditz. Better for him to go out and have a good time and come back to what he knows and loves than to spend the rest of his week off blaming you for his imprisonment

TambaTheDragonSlayer · 10/09/2006 09:53

Sounds like the sort of thing I would do... I love my nights out and even when H and I were still together I would stay out at least one night a week. I think I am a bloke in disguise.