Hey ladies,
We are getting married in the medium term future, and I'm after some advice regarding the stag do.
To try and be brief, I have absolutely zero tolerance of strip clubs or anything related to the sex industry - I used to work with victims of sex trafficking, have a friend who used to work as a stripper (in a "reputable" club) who had some terrible experiences, and as a consequence these places go against every principle that I hold.
My partner has known all this since he met me and completely respects my views (even if he finds them a little bonkers). The problem is I think my views on this is a bit of a joke to his friends (in a non malicious way), and I worry a little that they would think it funny to put him in a really awkward position.
Fiancé isn't sure how to approach it either - if he says something to them, he thinks they might be even more inclined to do something as a 'joke', but if he doesn't say anything, then it's a bit hit and miss. We were thinking he could suggest some ideas of things he'd like to do, which would categorically rule out strip clubs, but the only stuff we've found online has had a very...er...bizarrely religious undertone.
Does anyone have any ideas on cool shit to suggest (he's always wanted to go bungee jumping, but isn't sure if that's stag appropriate), or alternatively how we could broach it with his friends?
On a sliding scale, if they ended up in a strip club I would be fucking pissed off, and probably make sure that their table got nothing but vinegar to drink at the wedding in revenge, but if there was a lap dance involved I would seriously consider calling off the wedding, as that crosses a line of buying a woman as some kind of object for gratification.